Are you struggling to move on from your ex, even after the breakup? Many people are in this boat. No matter how hard they try, they find themselves going back into the same ditch. Moving on with your life is impossible as long as you’re being pulled back to your ex. You’re still under their spell, and you must break it.
Here’s how to break your ex’s hold over you.
1. Cut Off All Communication
You can't be talking to your ex when you're looking to move on from them. When you talk to somebody regularly, you continue to build ties and bonds. You and your ex have called it quits, so you need to stop talking to them, even if it isn't easy. You probably still want to hear their voice or know how they're doing, but now isn't the time for that sweet nonsense.
It doesn't matter who ended things; what matters is that both of you are no longer together. Cut all communication. Stop texting, stop calling, and stop looking them up on social media. Even if your ex tries to keep in touch, you don't have to entertain it. You aren't going to die; nothing bad will happen to you. Your ex isn't the air that you breathe. You're still breathing, aren't you? That tells you that you're going to do just fine. You're looking out for yourself here, and the best thing to do is to stop talking to them because it isn't good for you.
2. Discard All Items That Remind You of Them
While you were together, your ex probably gifted you some items. That's okay, but now that you're trying to move on, keeping those items will always remind you of them. Those items are a constant reminder that your ex still exists, which is difficult to handle. Any item with sentimental value associated with your ex must go.
If an item is so priceless that you can't destroy it or give it away, return it after the breakup. You don't have to do that in person; you could send it via courier or have a friend or family member return it on your behalf. The idea is to get your ex out of your life completely, out of your world, your sight, and your head. The earlier you do that, the faster you can break the spell.
3. Forgive Your Ex for Your Own Healing
Forgiving your ex might not be the easiest thing right now, especially if they hurt you. However, you aren't forgiving them because of them; you are doing it for yourself. If you don't forgive your ex, moving on will be so hard that you might not even be able to accomplish it.
When you forgive people, you take back your power. If you continue to hold a grudge or plot revenge, they're taking a spot in your heart. Until you let them go, you can't really move on. You're forgiving them because you need it for your own well-being. When you do, you'll feel like a significant burden has been lifted. If you find this topic interesting, please let me know by giving the video a thumbs up and dropping a comment below.
4. Speak With a Trusted Loved One
You're going through a lot right now, and you're hurting. A breakup is hardly easy, especially when you're still in love. You don't have to bottle it all up. Speak with a friend or a family member, someone you trust who has your best interests at heart.
Tell them how you feel. It's okay to break down, it's okay to cry, and it's okay to express yourself. You need somebody to hear your thoughts right now rather than just thinking in circles. Confide in that person. I assure you that as you tell them how your ex makes you feel and how hurt you are, you'll feel lighter. Having that conversation makes breaking the spell a lot easier and helps you heal from the heartbreak.
5. Be Kind and Nice to Yourself
Don't be so hard on yourself; you matter. Things didn't work out, but you've learned lessons that will help you do better in your next relationship. You're still here, and that's all that matters. Treat yourself nicely and give yourself a break.
Why beat yourself up just because one relationship didn't work out? Your best moments in life haven't even happened yet. Take yourself out, give yourself a treat, and give yourself a chance to be happy again. Promise me you'll pay more attention to yourself and cut yourself some slack. You can do a lot better, and your best days are still ahead of you.
To break your ex's spell, cut off all communication, discard items that remind you of them, forgive them, talk to a loved one, and be nice to yourself. When you do these things, moving on will be a lot easier. You're in charge of your life, so don't give someone else that much power over you.
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