Should broke men be dating? That’s a controversial question, but we need to tell ourselves the truth. The whole point of dating is to share happiness with someone, to complement them, and to make their life more meaningful.
If you’re going to cause someone so much pain just because they’re dating you, then what’s the point? You don’t want to be the reason someone regrets being in a relationship in the first place.
Here are 7 reasons why broke guys shouldn’t be in romantic relationships.
1. Money will always be a problem
Whether we like it or not, money is needed in almost every area of our lives. The only thing we don’t need money for is breathing. The air is free. But can we say the same for other things? Anyone who is truly independent would agree that money is needed for everything. You have bills to pay, commitments, and responsibilities, and you need money to handle all of these things.
When you’re in a relationship, those responsibilities don’t go away. If anything, they increase because you are now two people together. As a man, you are expected to take on at least most of the bills. So what happens when you’re dating someone and you can’t take on the bills?
There is no romance without finance. Romantic getaways, outings, dinners, and picnics all require money. When the money isn’t there, everything gets canceled, and the relationship becomes boring and frustrating.
Any man who wants a fun relationship has to make money first. Dating while broke is doing yourself a disservice because neither you nor the woman will be happy. It becomes a relationship of tolerance rather than enjoyment.
2. They are insecure
Insecurity stems from a sense of inadequacy, a feeling of not being enough. That insecurity affects the entire relationship. Everything the woman does is misinterpreted. If she goes out, it’s because he doesn’t have money. If she talks to someone, it’s because he doesn’t have money.
A broke man will constantly feel threatened by other men who have money and will project his insecurities onto his partner. This leads to accusations, emotional abuse, and constant suspicion. Even genuine love becomes poisoned by insecurity because money is missing.
3. They transfer financial frustration to their partner
Before you date a broke man, you must be ready to absorb all his frustrations. He will pour everything onto you. You become the reason nothing is working in his life. As men, when we don’t have money, we are not happy, and that unhappiness gets transferred to whoever is closest.
You will walk on eggshells, trying not to trigger him, yet he will be easily triggered. Every fight becomes draining. A relationship like that is not worth it. Once money comes in, most of these problems disappear, but until then, the emotional burden is heavy.
4. They cannot take charge
Men naturally want to take charge, and doing so requires money. When a man cannot take on responsibilities, he feels powerless and frustrated. That frustration spills into the relationship and other areas of his life.
It undermines his sense of self-worth and leads to anger, embarrassment, and resentment. Staying out of relationships until finances are sorted is simply self-preservation.
5. They are overly needy and clingy
When people lack in one area, they try to compensate in another. Broke men compensate for a lack of money with excessive emotional availability. While emotional presence is good, too much of it becomes suffocating.
They want to control your time, monitor your movements, and constantly demand attention. This level of neediness is unattractive and exhausting. Love and attention cannot replace money, and too much emotional dependence eventually pushes people away.
6. They always feel disrespected
Money commands respect in society. When a man doesn’t have money, people around him, including family and friends, often don’t respect him. He feels it, knows it, and it hurts him deeply. Because of that, even small things feel like disrespect, and he becomes defensive and aggressive. This creates constant conflict, and the partner ends up fighting everyone on his behalf. That level of negativity ruins peace and happiness.
7. The relationship will be boring
Money makes things happen. Without it, outings and activities stop, and excitement fades. Staying at home all the time becomes unbearable.
Trying to compensate by borrowing only creates bigger problems. A relationship shouldn’t be sustained by debt. If you can’t afford a relationship, it’s better to stay single and focus on improving your financial situation.
Being broke isn’t a crime, but dragging someone else into that struggle is unfair. Sort yourself out first. When you’re ready, you can date without stress, frustration, or resentment. Broke men deserve love like anyone else, but without money, that love can turn into frustration.