Who is a bad girl? She is the girl who doesn’t conform to any rules. She lives life in the fast lane on her own terms, regardless of what anybody thinks or sees. Unlike the good girl, who tries to live by the rules and wants to be in everybody’s good books so she will be seen as the girl people can rely on, the bad girl is the girl that mothers warn their sons against. Don’t get with that girl.
But ironically, the bad girl is the girl that a lot of guys gravitate toward, and there are reasons for that. Why is that so?
Here are 6 reasons why boys prefer bad girls.
1. Men Are Natural Risk Takers
The bigger the risk, the higher the reward. Men see bad girls as a risk worth taking, one that offers a very big reward. The bad girl is perceived as on a path to self-destruction, and if nothing is done, she will not only destroy herself but also destroy the people around her.
A man sees this girl and thinks to himself, I can save her. Men have a savior complex. They feel that by just getting to know that girl, they can turn her life around. But that is hardly the case, because the bad girl knows what she’s doing, and she’s not easily swayed by anyone.
Being with that bad girl is an ego boost for a lot of men because she’s usually out of their league. They can see her, admire her, and want her, but many lack the confidence or the wherewithal to actually get her. So he’s thinking to himself, if I can get this girl, I can show her off to my friends and be that guy who can get any girl he wants.
Eventually, when he gets the bad girl, it boosts his ego and gives him the assurance that no woman is out of his league. If he could get her, then he might as well get any other woman in the world.
2. Bad Girls Are Mysterious
There’s something very attractive about a mysterious woman. You can see her, but the more you look, the less you see. A bad girl is always a step ahead. You think you have her figured out, but you don’t, and that’s something men find very intriguing.
Good girls are very easy to figure out. You look at them, and you can tell what they’re all about - this is one of the reasons why good girls are single. Bad girls have several options because they’re living life in the fast lane. They’ve seen a lot of men, so to get their attention in the first place, you have to be all that.
When a man begins to talk to a bad girl, he realizes she is hardly emotionally available because there’s so much going on in her life. That unavailability makes him even more interested, because men are attracted to things they can’t readily have. When things are handed to men on a platter of gold, they tend not to value them.
The bad girl is hard to figure out, and that mystery makes men work extra hard. They put in so much effort. They constantly try to please her, wondering whether she likes them, why she doesn’t give them her time, and why she isn’t talking to them. All that mystery and unavailability is very attractive. Men are willing to try harder because, for men, the more difficult it is, the more valuable it is.
3. Bad Girls Are Adventurous
There’s no woman more adventurous than the bad one. The bad girl is the one always at the forefront of having fun. She knows all the fun places in the world and all the things that could literally get a man’s adrenaline pumping.
Men are up for fun any day, anytime. A man wants to be where the action is. He wants to be with a woman who brings out the best in him when it comes to having fun. He wants a woman who is spontaneous and always ready to get up and get things done.
Good girls are very reserved. They are quiet and don’t want to do crazy stuff. They would rather live a peaceful life. But that is not the rule for the bad girl. The bad girl likes to make things happen. There are no dull moments with her, and that is something men are always looking for.
With a bad girl, a man feels invincible. He feels like he can do the most dangerous things and get away with them without consequences, because he has a woman who motivates him to go further. Even though what he’s doing is risky, he just wants to have fun. For bad girls, adventure is part of life, and men are up for the challenge as well.
4. Men Don’t Want to Date a Motherly Figure
A lot of men love their mothers and would give the world for them, but when it comes to dating, they don’t want to date a woman who reminds them of their mother.
The kind of love a man has for his mother is different from the kind he wants for his woman. The good girl is often a reminder of his mother. She is almost perfect and knows what to do. When men think of their mother, they think of perfection, even though their mothers may not be ideal in reality.
That’s what good girls do. They try to be perfect and correct everything. The bad girl, on the other hand, understands that she is human and is willing to make mistakes. A man doesn’t want to be with a woman who is constantly correcting him, scolding him, or telling him how to behave.
He wants to let his guard down, be free, and be himself. With a bad girl, he can do that. She is not trying to be a mother figure in his life. She understands that he is human and allowed to make mistakes, and she cuts him some slack because she knows she isn’t perfect either.
5. Bad Girls Are Good in Bed
Bad girls tend to have more experience. They’ve been with several guys, so they know what works and what doesn’t. They also know what most guys like in bed.
Many good girls don’t have much experience. They’re nervous, sometimes clueless, and expect the man to do all the work. That can be tiring. Sometimes men want to be taken care of, too, and bad girls understand that.
When it’s time, bad girls come out in their full glory, and men are intrigued by a woman who knows what she’s doing. They know how to deliver sexual satisfaction, and that plays a significant role.
6. Bad Girls Know How to Take Care of a Man
Bad girls are more experienced with men. Experience plays a big role in acquiring knowledge. They have dated several men and know what men want.
Many good girls haven’t dated much and are limited in experience. Bad girls understand men's psychology. They know what to say, how to boost a man’s ego, and how to choose their battles. They don’t fight unnecessarily. They understand emotions and know how to navigate relationships wisely.
Many good girls have an entitlement mentality and feel like things should be handed to them just because they are good. But life doesn’t work that way. Bad girls understand how the game works. This is similar to why bad boys get all the good girls.