So, no girl wants to be with you - that must really hurt. Many men desire to be the center of attraction. As a straight man, you want the prettiest girl to yourself. When you walk into the room, you want all the girls to turn in your direction. You want them to say “hello” because they admire you and find you attractive. But when none of that happens, it gives you serious concern because it makes you wonder what the problem is; what is wrong with me? And why can’t I get any girl to look in my direction?
Here are 7 reasons why no girl wants to date you or be with you.
1. Low self-esteem
Your self-esteem is more obvious than you think. When you feel low about yourself, it shows. You probably think it only resides on the inside, but it reflects on the outside, especially in your interactions with people.
With such low self-esteem, you feel you’re not good enough and don’t have what it takes to get a woman to actually like you and want to be with you. If any woman decides to be with you, you feel like they would be doing you a big favor, and that affects the way you approach women.
When you look at women, you feel like they’re out of your league and beyond your reach. You need to drop that mindset because every woman wants to be with a man who is the best in her environment. If she walks into the room with you, she wants to feel that you are the best man in the room.
She wants the people around her, the men and the women, to look at her and feel that she is a very lucky woman because she won a prize. But if you feel so lowly of yourself with such low self-esteem, you are not going to radiate that kind of energy.
Start seeing yourself as someone good enough to have any woman you want. If a woman is going to be with you, she is not doing you a favor, and neither are you doing her any favors by being with her. Both of you are coming together mutually to build a relationship.
Hold your head up high as a man who is the best among his kind. When you walk into the room, hold your shoulders up high. Don’t look downward like you’re trying to hide something or like you don’t feel confident enough. Exude so much confidence that girls would want to be with you, if not for anything, for the confidence you radiate. This could get you a first date with the girl of your dreams.
2. You don’t look attractive
Your friends might not be able to look you in the eye and tell you the truth, but girls may be avoiding you because you don’t look attractive. I’m not talking about your looks but your appearance. Being attractive isn’t about being the most handsome boy in the room; it’s about paying attention to your appearance and grooming.
There’s a misconception that men aren’t supposed to be well-groomed because that’s something for women, but that’s wrong. A man has to pay much attention to his looks if he wants any woman to take him seriously.
Be mindful of the kinds of clothes you wear. Wear clothes that accentuate your physique and make you look better than you do ordinarily. Don’t look scruffy or unkept; that’s a turn-off for any girl.
She doesn’t want to be walking with you on the streets, and people will think she’s walking with her maid. She wants to walk with a man that other people will admire, too. Yes, they can admire him, but they can’t have him because he’s all hers. Nobody wants to be with an abandoned product.
If you’re not going to pay attention to your look, you’re not going to pay attention to your appearance, then you shouldn’t expect any girl to pay attention to you. No. You need to start taking your appearance seriously.
Invest in good clothing, good shoes, and good cosmetics. Put yourself in the shoes of that girl you want to marry. Would you want to be with yourself?
Why would she want to be with you when the other guys coming her way look way more attractive than you do? She has options to choose from, and if you don’t meet up, she’s going to obviously abandon you. She will go for the best guy or one of the best guys.
No man is ugly. If any man paid attention to his look and appearance, that man would be the most attractive in the room. It’s all about being intentional about what you want. And in this case, if you truly want girls to want to be with you, then you need to pay attention to your appearance.
3. You are broke
No woman in her right mind would want to be with a broke guy. Why should she be with you? You’re broke. As a matter of fact, you shouldn’t be looking for a woman when you’re broke. You need to focus on making money. Earn some money because money has to be spent. There is no romance without finance.
Forget about all the things you see in the movies. Those are fictitious stories. They don’t happen in real life. In real life, a man has to spend some money on his woman to make the relationship work and enjoyable.
If you’re broke, one guy to another, stop looking for women. You’re just going to end up emotionally stressing them because you will always have one sore story to tell about why you don’t have money.
You won’t be able to meet your responsibilities. She won’t be happy being with you. They say money doesn’t guarantee happiness, but in reality, money makes life better. Money makes a lot of things happen. Money makes the world go round.
No girl in her right senses would want to be with you when it’s so obvious that you are broke. Your focus right now is to resolve that particular challenge by working. Work harder. If you’re already working hard, work smarter.
When you start making money, you can start looking for a girl who’s interested in you. By then, she will see that you’re not doing so badly. She will see that you can take on some of the bills, if not all of them.
Stop looking for women when you’re broke. You’re just going to end up hurting yourself because they will keep telling you “no.” None of them would want to genuinely be with you.
They say true love isn’t materialistic and all of that, but trust me, true love without money eventually gets sour. There will be so much trouble that you will be wondering what happened to the true love you both proclaimed earlier.
4. Poor ideology of women
Your archaic views of women are keeping you single. Gender equality is the standard in today’s modern society. If you still hold outdated beliefs about women, such as women being second-class citizens, being subdued by men, or being in the kitchen, you are way behind.
You need to catch up with the times. If you think women are meant to be slaves, people without rights, or people who shouldn’t have a say in anything, including relationships, then no girl in her right mind would want to be with you.
No girl would willingly walk into danger. No girl wants to be enslaved or entrapped. Your ideology and the way you speak so poorly of women are really affecting your relationship status. You need to drop it. You need to begin to see women for the lovely human beings they are. No woman is supposed to be treated poorly by anyone, let alone a man.
Think about it this way. You have a mother. You will probably have a daughter tomorrow. Would you want your daughter, sister, or mother to be treated that way? No.
So, why would you want to treat other women that way? If you keep talking down to women, the women around you hear these things. Nobody would willingly put themselves on the receiving end of that situation.
5. You are boring
No girl wants to be with a boring guy, a guy who can’t make her come alive or entertain her. Every girl dreams of being with a guy who engages her meaningfully and holds interesting conversations with her. When she leaves her friends and family to be with you, she expects you to make it worth her while.
You need to make the effort. You need to be in tune with trends, pop culture, and entertainment. You need to have things to talk about. You don’t have to be a comedian. Just be interesting. If you continue this way, no girl would want to spend time with you. Learn to be interesting.
6. You are clingy and possessive
It’s okay to be emotional, but going overboard isn’t. No woman wants to lose her freedom. Being overly possessive is toxic and will push women away. You need to relax, control your emotions, and understand that you both have separate lives.
7. You are not exposed
Many girls want a trophy man, a man who is well-traveled, knowledgeable, and exposed. You need to upgrade yourself by reading more, learning more, and broadening your horizons. When you do that, you become a man any woman can proudly show off.
Acknowledging a problem and taking steps to resolve it go a long way. Women don’t want you because you lack the qualities they admire in men. This is fixable. If you make practical changes in your life, you will be amazed at how many women will desire you.