Spending time with your man must feel good, both of you in your own worlds, having a good time. But is he really your man if he’s thinking about another woman while he’s with you? He may be physically with you, but if he’s got someone else on his mind, he may prefer to be with someone else.
A man’s heart is often occupied by the person he loves. If that person isn’t you, it’s a red flag. Here’s how to know he’s invested in someone else.
1. He Calls You by Her Name
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re talking to your boyfriend, your man, or your husband, and he suddenly calls you by another woman’s name? Not just any name, but a woman’s name. That’s a clear sign he’s been thinking about her.
He didn’t call you by someone else’s name by accident. He’s been thinking about that woman and, for a moment, forgot he wasn’t talking to her. You don’t call someone by another person’s name like that unless that person is already on your mind. If your man has a habit of calling you by another woman’s name while you’re together, he’s thinking about her.
It gets even worse if this happens while you’re in bed or making love. That’s deeply messed up and one of the strongest signs he’s thinking about her while he’s with you.
2. He Constantly References Her in Conversations
You’re having a conversation, and somehow he keeps bringing her up. He makes references to her, mentioning what she would have done or how she would have reacted. He does this subconsciously because she has a place in his heart, and he’s thinking about her.
If it happens once or twice, that may be understandable. But when he keeps bringing her up, always referencing her, it’s no coincidence. He’s thinking about her and doesn’t even realize how often he talks about her. It’s disrespectful, especially when he’s supposed to be giving you his full attention.
If he’s always referencing her while talking to you, that’s a huge sign he’s thinking about her. We’re still talking about signs he’s thinking about her while he’s with you.
3. He Compares You to Her
This is one of the biggest red flags. Comparing you to another woman is unacceptable. He shouldn’t even think about doing that. When he says things like she would have done this differently or she would have handled that better, it doesn’t matter what she would have done.
You’re with him. He’s with you. Nobody else matters, especially another woman. When he constantly compares you to her, it shows she’s on his mind. Otherwise, he wouldn’t even remember she exists.
This is disrespectful because when he’s with you, he’s supposed to focus on you and give you his undivided attention. If he should be thinking about anyone, it should be you, not another woman.
4. He’s Texting Her While He’s With You
This one is even worse. You’re together, spending time as a couple, but he’s on his phone texting another woman. That’s not just thinking about her; it’s actively giving her attention.
It’s disrespectful to text someone else when you’re supposed to be spending quality time with your partner. Responding to one or two important messages is understandable, but beyond that, everything else can wait. If he’s texting another woman while he’s with you, it’s clear he’s thinking about her.
A man who truly loves and respects you wouldn’t be texting another woman while he’s with you. If your man does this regularly, it’s a clear sign he’s thinking about her while he’s with you.
A man who thinks about another woman in your presence is disrespectful. That’s a sign that you aren’t a priority to him. Calling you by her name, referencing her, comparing you to her, and texting her are all clear signs. The worst of them all is texting her, because he’s giving her attention when all of that attention should be on you.
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