What do women want? This million-dollar question has many wondering how to please a woman. To make a woman happy, you need to understand what she wants, because meeting her needs does. But you don’t have to break the bank. It’s in the little things.
1. Acceptance
A woman wants you to accept her the way she is. A lot of men are about changing their women. They want their women to act, dress, and behave in certain ways. Truth is, there’s nothing wrong with wanting your woman to be a certain way you prefer, but when you expect her to completely change from who she is into the image you have in your head, it becomes a problem because she’s her own person.
You met her the way she was, and you liked her that way. So why would you want her to completely change just to fit your idea of a perfect woman?
You can make certain recommendations and give her suggestions on how to become a better person, but when you outrightly want to change her, that’s not cool. You’re indirectly saying that she isn’t okay the way she is. If you can’t be with her the way she is, why don’t you just go after someone who is what you want?
2. Affection
Do you love her? Do you care about her? It isn’t okay to just say these things. Talk’s cheap. Anybody can say anything. She wants to know it by feeling and experiencing it. If you ever have to wonder whether someone loves you, there’s a very high chance they don’t. If you give her reasons to second-guess the love you claim to have for her, in no time, she’ll begin to feel that you never loved her.
She wants you to be practical about what you feel for her. She wants you to go the extra mile to show her that you truly love her, that you care. It’s in the little things. It isn’t okay to go up the mountain top and say, “Oh, I love you, I love you.” Why don’t you come down and begin to show it in the smallest ways?
A woman wants to feel loved. She wants to feel your affection. She wants to hear you say that you truly love her by your actions. Affection can be expressed in several ways. It’s about looking her in the eye, telling her she’s the most beautiful woman in the world, and actually doing things to make her feel it.
Don’t assume she knows you love her. As a man, there’s a tendency to get complacent after being with a particular woman for a while. You begin to think she already knows how you feel about her and that there’s no need to go the extra mile to show it, but that isn’t true. You need to continually let her know how you feel. You need not just say it but do it. It’s in the doing.
Action speaks louder than words. Let her feel it. Let her experience it. You don’t want to give her any reason to doubt that you truly, truly love her. The moment she can confidently say, “This man truly loves me,” and go to sleep without a single doubt, you know you have a truly happy woman who thinks about you every second. She’ll have peace of mind.
3. Attention
It’s no secret that women love attention, so it’s not surprising that your woman wants yours. If you can’t give her your attention, what else can you give her? Who else would you be giving your attention to?
She wants to know that when she’s talking to you, you’re listening. She wants you to put everything else aside and truly listen to her. One way she can tell whether you’re listening is by your reaction and how you follow up on what she told you earlier.
She wants you to pay attention to what’s happening in her life, at work, and emotionally. Some days are great, some days aren’t. When she’s not feeling so great, do you notice? She doesn’t want to have to tell you everything. She expects you to pick up on some things on your own.
If you’re paying attention, you’ll notice changes in her mood. Attention shows care. If you truly love her, you’ll always find a way to give her the attention she craves. When she knows she has your attention, she’ll have no reason to worry.
4. Assurance
She wants to be assured that she’s yours and that you’re hers, that you’re a team. There’s nothing more painful than giving your all to someone who doesn’t give theirs back.
She wants to know that no matter what happens, you’ll be there and that you won’t disappear when things get tough. If she isn’t sure where she stands with you, that’s a problem. But if you assure her and let her know, “I’ve got you,” she’ll be one of the happiest women in the world.
5. Assertiveness
She wants confidence. A man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to voice his opinions respectfully. Bottling up emotions isn’t healthy. She isn’t a mind reader. If you aren’t comfortable with something, let her know.
A woman wants a man who’s assertive and confident. When you say something, she should be able to trust your word. Don’t say one thing today and another tomorrow. Know what you want and stand by it.
6. Acknowledgement
She wants to hear how much you care about her. Compliments don’t get old. She wants to be acknowledged for the little things and the big things. Being with you is a choice she’s made, so acknowledge it.
Tell her she’s beautiful. Tell her you appreciate her. Tell her you love her. Keep saying it. If you feel it, say it.
There’s a general belief that women are complicated, but women just want the little things. Acceptance. Appreciation. Affection. Attention. Assurance. Acknowledgment.
If you love her, don’t just say it. Show it. Every relationship is unique, so express these things in your own way. At the end of the day, both of you will be better off for it.