Despite the massive exposure that comes with growing civilization, women chasing after men is still largely frowned upon. Even the most liberal people still believe that it’s a man’s place to do the wooing, discouraging women from doing the same. It makes you wonder why this is so. Perhaps there is some logic in that. Here are reasons why women should pursue men.
1. Men Aren’t Wired to Be Chased
Men aren’t wired to be chased. Maybe that needs to be said again so it sinks in. As men, we aren’t wired to be chased. We don’t want to be caught; we want to do the chasing and the catching.
From the beginning of history, stories and myths show that men are designed to chase women, not the other way around. When you chase a man, you’re going against nature. That isn’t how it was designed to be in the first place.
Men love to hunt and chase. There’s so much thrill that comes from chasing a woman. The chase itself is exciting. Sometimes, the more resistance there is, the more exciting it feels. When you turn the tables and start chasing a man, there’s a high chance it won’t work out. You won’t be successful because that isn’t how the system is designed to work.
By nature, men love to chase. When you chase a man, you make him feel emasculated. No man wants to be in that position. It might seem cute or interesting at first, but in the long run, it won’t end well. That isn’t how men were designed from the very beginning.
2. If You Have to Chase Him, He’s Probably Not Into You
When a man likes you, he does the chasing. He comes after you without needing your permission. He goes after what he wants, including a woman he fancies or loves.
When the roles reverse, and you’re the one chasing, it usually means he isn’t into you. When a man isn’t into you, there’s a high chance he’ll never be into you, no matter what you do. Even if he gives in out of pity or tries to compensate for your effort, the relationship will be one-sided.
You’ll be the one giving emotionally and otherwise, while he won’t meet you at the same level. Over time, that becomes exhausting. Men can be very fixed in their feelings. When they like you, they like you. When they don’t, they don’t. Saving yourself the stress is the smarter option.
3. Chasing Him Doesn’t Guarantee He’ll Return Your Love
Chasing a man doesn’t guarantee he’ll return your love. As long as he doesn’t feel the same way about you, he might never feel that way. Even if you manage to start a relationship with him, it’ll likely be one-sided.
You’ll keep giving and giving, and it won’t feel balanced. While many relationships aren’t perfectly balanced, it’s different when one person gives everything emotionally. Eventually, you’ll get tired.
Unrequited love creates serious emotional trouble. Loving someone who doesn’t love you back drains you mentally and emotionally. There’s no guarantee that chasing a man will win his heart. You might have him physically, but there’s no guarantee his heart will be with you. That’s why chasing a man is never a good idea.
4. Your Self-Esteem Will Take a Hit
Rejection hurts. If you’ve experienced it before, you already know how painful it feels. Chasing a man increases the risk of rejection, and that rejection can hit harder than you expect.
Men are used to rejection because they do most of the chasing. It’s normal for a man to get rejected. When a woman faces rejection, it can feel devastating because it isn’t common. Women don’t naturally chase men.
If you pursue a man and he doesn’t reciprocate, it can severely damage your self-esteem. That emotional blow can linger and even lead to depression. Recovering from that kind of rejection can take a very long time. Protecting your self-esteem matters.
5. He Might Rub It in Your Face
Some men will rub it in your face. Even if you end up dating or marrying him, he might remind you that you chased him. Statements like “you came after me, I never chased you” can surface later.
That kind of comment won’t sit well with you. It’ll feel like a slap in the face. When a woman says a man chased her, it feels normal because that’s how things usually work. When a man says it to a woman, it rarely ends well.
If you don’t want someone using your effort against you, don’t chase him. Regret often follows when those words come back to haunt you.
Times have changed, and women chasing men may seem more common, but some things still haven’t changed. Men aren’t wired to be chased. If you have to chase him, he’s probably not into you. He may never return your love. Your self-esteem can suffer, and he might make it clear later.
Sitting back and letting a man chase you isn’t a weakness. It aligns with how attraction naturally works. Chasing a man can leave you with regret and emotional baggage that’s hard to shake.