Dating can be tricky. Half the time, you don’t even know the person you’re getting with, and as a result, you experience all sorts of strange behaviors from them. Guys can be funny, especially when they have something up their sleeves. If a guy doesn’t really love you as much as he claims, he exhibits all sorts of funny behaviors.
Here are signs that your man is bad news and no good for you:
1. He Says He Loves You the First Time He Sees You
If he tells you he’s in love with you the very first time he sees you, just know he’s up to no good. You need to run for your life because that isn’t true. I hope you don’t even believe it. How can a guy fall in love with you the very first time he sees you?
Don’t even tell me it could be love at first sight. Love at first sight is an illusion. It only happens in the movies. Guy meets girl, falls madly in love with her, and they live happily ever after. It sounds too good to be true, and that’s because, in most cases, it isn’t.
A guy who meets you for the very first time and starts telling you how madly he’s in love with you is up to something. Half the time, he just wants to get between your legs. That’s just it, and if you fall for it, you’re in for a disaster.
Ordinarily, there’s nothing wrong with a guy making passes at a girl he just met, but if he has to lie about his feelings just to get you to be with him, it shows he’s manipulative. Manipulative people are destructive. He’ll manipulate you at the slightest opportunity just to have his way.
Love is a process. It takes time to grow. You don’t meet someone today and fall madly in love with them. Why the rush? Why the hurry? A guy with good intentions will take his time to know you before talking about serious stuff like that.
2. He Constantly Asks You for Money
Be wary of a guy who’s constantly asking you for money. That’s a red flag. Times have changed, but that doesn’t mean a man is no longer expected to play certain roles in a relationship.
A man is supposed to be the provider. If he’s always asking you for money, that’s a red flag. First, it shows he’s shameless, because real men don’t go around asking women for money. Men are egoistic. A guy who’s always asking you for money already knows he doesn’t have any long-term intentions with you.
It’s understandable if you’ve been with him for a while and he’s going through a rough patch, but if you barely know him and he’s already living off you, that’s a red flag. You need to run for your life. That guy is a plague, and you need to avoid him.
3. He’s Still Close Friends with His Ex
If a guy you’re dating is still close friends with his ex, you need to run. He doesn’t have to be enemies with her, but they don’t have to be close friends either. He has you. You’re supposed to be his emotional support.
If he’s still very close to his ex, it only means one thing. He still has feelings for her. At the slightest opportunity, something will happen. Being too close to an ex leads to revisiting old memories, rekindling feelings, and making plans.
If he tells you they’re just friends, that’s a lie. Don’t buy it. You might even be the side chick without knowing it. You deserve someone who gives you his full attention, not someone whose attention is divided.
4. He Abuses You Physically or Emotionally
If he assaults you, physically or emotionally, you need to run for your life. Emotional abuse is just as dangerous as physical abuse. If he constantly makes you feel like you’re nothing, it’s extremely harmful to your well-being.
A man who lays a finger on you doesn’t deserve you. Making excuses for abusive men only gives them permission to continue. You should have zero tolerance for abuse. This is a matter of life and death. Nobody deserves to be abused.
5. He Flirts with Other People in Your Presence
If your boyfriend constantly flirts with others in your presence, that’s the height of disrespect. You shouldn’t tolerate it. Flirting behind your back is bad enough. Doing it in front of you is unacceptable.
That behavior shows he doesn’t value you. He’s daring you to react. If you’re uncomfortable but still stay, he knows he can keep doing it. You deserve respect. If he won’t change, you need to leave.
At the end of the day, people treat you the way you allow them to. If you want respect, you need to demand it. Stop tolerating bad behavior. If he won’t treat you right, walk away.