The perfect love story is falling for someone who is equally in love with you. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always play out that way, as it does in movies. Not all men who show interest in you have good intentions. Some are seeking selfish gains, including wanting to sleep with you. He doesn’t want you for your heart or long-term commitments but for your body. Here are signs to watch for.
1. He’s Overly Focused on Your Looks
There’s nothing wrong with a guy giving you compliments about your looks. If you made so much effort to look good, it’s only fair that you get the compliments that come your way. You deserve all of it. But when a guy is always talking about how beautiful you are, how sexy you are, blah blah blah, there’s a very high chance that he’s only interested in your body.
There are other things to you as a person. You have a life going on, a career going on, or a business going on, or you’re probably in school or something. He can talk about other things, so why is he always talking about your body? It’s because that’s all he’s interested in.
If he’s not interested in your life, in knowing what you’re going through, and he doesn’t want to make conversation about other things, but every time he’s talking about how great you look and how beautiful you are, there’s a very high chance that he just wants to sleep with you. Once you allow that to happen, he’ll be nowhere to be found. He’ll take to his heels because he’s gotten what he was looking for.
2. He Turns Every Conversation Into Sex
You guys are talking, and somehow he always takes it back to sex. He finds a way to bring it into the conversation. He’s trying to provide ideas and clarify what he wants - that's a red flag in a man.
You guys could talk about a million things in the world, or you could even keep quiet, but somehow this guy finds a way to bring sex into the conversation. He knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s putting ideas in your head and watching to see how you respond because he needs your consent.
When he keeps bringing it up, and you indulge him, you’re encouraging him. There’s nothing wrong with two adults talking about sex, but if that’s all he’s interested in discussing with you out of everything in the world, he’s indirectly telling you what he wants. The moment he sleeps with you, there’ll be nothing left for him to get.
3. He Only Invites You to His House
This guy doesn’t speak with you for a long time, and the minute he does, he’s saying, “Do you want to come over to my house?” That’s all he does. He’s always inviting you to his house.
Why can’t you guys do things that don’t involve his house? He’s baiting you because when you’re in his house, there’s a high chance that something could happen. If a guy only reaches out to you to invite you over, that’s a sign.
When a guy is interested in being friends with you or having a relationship with you, he wouldn’t be so eager to always have you at his place. You can build a bond without being in his space all the time. He wants you there so it’s easier for him to seduce you.
Even if nothing happens the first time or the second time, there’s no guarantee something won’t happen later. Being in his space repeatedly increases the chances, even if you didn’t plan to sleep with him. And he might dump you afterwards.
4. He Brags About How Great He Is in Bed
Why is he giving you that information? He’s trying to impress you. He wants you to be eager to find out for yourself.
Whether or not he’s great in bed isn’t your business, and just because he says he is doesn’t mean it’s true. He could be lying. He’s baiting you, knowing that a lot of women are drawn to that idea.
If he’s constantly bragging about how great he is in bed, how his exes couldn’t get enough of him, and how women talk about him, he’s baiting you. He just wants to sleep with you. By the time you find out whether he’s telling the truth or not, he will have already gotten what he wanted.
If he’s overly focused on your looks, makes every conversation about sex, always invites you to his house, and brags about how great he is in bed, there’s a high chance that’s all he wants.
As an adult, you can do whatever you want, but do it because you truly want to, not because someone deceived you into it.