The dating scene can be intriguing. You get caught up with players who take advantage of everyone they come across. To them, it’s all a game. The more people they sleep with, the better they feel about themselves. But you can flip the switch on them.
They think they have you in a corner because they are used to playing other people, but you are going to give them a shocker by beating them at their own game.
Here’s how to outsmart a player:
1. Disconnect From Them Emotionally
When it comes to dating or being in a relationship, you risk losing a lot when you are emotionally invested. When you love and care for them, you can't rest until you know they are all right. You need to tone it down, actually, you need to eradicate it completely. As long as you know this person is a player trying to take advantage of you, you have to disconnect emotionally.
Don’t fall in love with them. You need to turn off the switch in your heart because if you fall in love, you will get burned. Understand that this is a game. That way, you won’t be hurt no matter what they do because you already figured them out from the beginning.
2. Win Their Trust by Making Them Feel Needed
A player is all about deception. One way they work is by making you believe they are genuinely interested in you. They shower you with love and affection until you fall in love and become relaxed. This is what you need to do: make them feel the same way.
One way to build trust is to make them feel you need them. At some point, you have to become needy, especially in the beginning. Call on them and run to them to make them feel like there's a space in your heart for them. When a player sees that you need them, they feel they've gotten you where they want you. They will be more relaxed, not knowing that you are doing the same thing to them.
3. Do Not Be at Their Beck and Call
Players are so smooth at the game that it's only a matter of time before they have you at their beck and call. When they say come, you jump. But since you're trying to beat them, you have to keep them guessing. Keep them on their toes by not being so eager to show up whenever they ask. The idea is to make them feel like you are a very busy person with your own life to live.
Now that you have earned their trust, you will not raise suspicion if you aren't always available. The more unpredictable you are, the more eager they are to get to know you. When you are not at their beck and call, they will be more willing to do things for you.
4. Take as Much as You Can From Them
Remember, this is a game. They are trying to play you, so you need to play them as much as possible. Since you've convinced them you need them, and they trust you, take as much as you can. Ask for favors. As long as you know they can do what you're asking for, go ahead and ask.
Keep it cool and calm, but keep asking and taking. All is fair because they are trying to take advantage of you. The only thing is that they are not aware that you figured them out. At the end of the day, they would regret ever trying to play you in the first place.
5. Do Not Disclose Too Much About Yourself
This isn't a real relationship, so you don’t have to tell them everything. Don't talk so much. Hold back as much information as you can and remain mysterious. They shouldn’t figure you out, because if you disclose too much, they'll have ammunition to get back at you later.
Keep your private life as secret as possible. Tell them only what they need to know to keep the supposed relationship moving. If they ask certain questions, answer briefly to avoid raising suspicion, but don't run a commentary on your life. When you eventually leave them stranded, they will have little to no information to work with.
6. Know When to Take a Walk
This is where many people get it wrong. They become so absorbed that they forget it’s a game and want to stay forever. No, this isn't real. When you start playing them, and you've gotten what you wanted, you need to know when to take a walk. It’s best to leave when the ovation is loudest.
If you keep waiting to take more and more, they are going to figure you out and might even plot a bigger revenge. Once you've had enough and you know you beat them at the game, take a bow and leave peacefully before they catch on.
Outsmarting a player begins with understanding their psychology and engaging them accordingly. They are smooth, composed, and calculated. You have to be just as smooth as they are to win the game. When they realize they can’t use you, they’ll distance themselves from you and let you be.
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