Relationships are a two-way street - two people falling in love and choosing to be together. But you have to find a partner before you can get into a relationship. Imagine finding that partner and scaring him away because of one thing or another. That’s not a nice feeling for anyone. Certain behaviours scare men away. What are they?
1. Seeking Commitment Too Soon
You need to relax; don't be in a hurry. Commitment is a big deal for us as men. When a man is getting to know you, and you're quick to ask for commitment, you're giving him a red flag. You're giving him a reason to believe you just want to pin him down.
A man needs time to get to know you and feel comfortable around you before he begins to seek that commitment. When you're so quick to ask, you're just going to scare him off. Just relax and allow him to enjoy the ride.
When he's comfortable and feels like he can trust you, you don't even need to ask. He will be the one asking to commit to each other. Don't be in a hurry; just give him some time. When he sees that you are someone he should be with, he would offer it to you on a platter of gold.
2. Being Excessively Clingy
If you don't take anything else from this video, take this: don't be clingy. I know you want him and want to spend all day with him, but he will get tired because he will have no breathing space. We get tired of things that are always in our faces.
Stop wanting to spend every second with him. You had a life before you met him, didn't you? Why are you suddenly acting like you didn't exist before? He has a life and things to attend to. No matter how much he loves you, he needs some time off. If you don't give him that, he will take to his heels.
Take a breather. When you feel like you want to be in his face, calm down and caution yourself. Remember, men love to do the chasing. If you are always there, it feels like you are doing the chasing. Get a hobby or do something you love. When you're busy, you won't even remember him most of the time, making it even more fun when you finally do see each other.
3. Gossiping About Other People
Men don't really like to gossip. It's not in our nature to talk about other people. If you're fond of gossiping to him, he might tolerate it at first to please you, but eventually, it gives the impression that you are a difficult person who doesn't see the good in others.
He would rather talk about the two of you or the things happening in your lives. If you must talk about others, it should be about good things. Don't speak evil of people; it makes you come across as a terrible person.
If you're gossiping about others to him, it also suggests you gossip about him to other people. Watch what you say. Be yourself and share stories, but take it easy with the gossip. Only tell him what he needs to know. Going on and on in a bad light makes you look like a gossip who sees nothing good in anyone.
4. Lacking a Personal Life
When you don't have a life and just sit around waiting on him, he becomes the center of your world. It's only a matter of time before he gets tired because you are going to suffocate him. Not having a life means you won't have anything interesting to share.
A relationship is even more fun when both people bring different things to the table. He wants to know about the things going on in your life, too. If you are just waiting on him, you make it a big deal whenever he isn't around.
When you have a life of your own, the relationship benefits because you bring in different elements. If your life is interesting, he would want to be a part of it. Otherwise, you put him under pressure to be the only one making you happy. When you have friends and interests, there are other people to cheer you up, too.
5. Exhibiting Irrational Jealousy
Jealousy can be a good thing if it comes from love, but when it's irrational and without a meaningful reason, it's a problem. He will always have to explain things and apologize,e even when he hasn't crossed the line. Excessive jealousy is not healthy at all.
Every man loves his freedom. You need to give him some breathing space. Unless you have concrete evidence to believe he is cheating, you shouldn't get jealous. Otherwise, you are just going to shoot yourself in the foot.
Freedom is vital. By acting out without reason, you are going to scare him off, and he won't be with you at the end of the day.
Those are the behaviors that scare men off: seeking commitment too early, being too clingy, gossiping, not having a life, and being unnecessarily jealous. Any man in his right senses won't put up with them for too long. Even when you experience these emotions, you need to caution yourself and ask how it helps your relationship.
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