While some men are hardworking, earning their own money through legitimate means, others target vulnerable women to extort money from. Their main tactic is to claim to be in love with these women, thereby gaining access to their money.
Having done this for so long, men have become better at their tricks, pretending to be loving and caring toward their victims. It’s important to pay close attention to identify when dishonest men are trying to extort women. Here are some of the tricks they use.
1. Lying About Spending Everything on a Project
This trick is so common because it's easy to believe. When he tells you he has spent all his money on a project, he gives you the impression that he is hardworking and ambitious. Naturally, as his woman, you want to step in to help because if he is successful, you will benefit too. But he might be telling you a big lie. You need to verify his story, ask questions, and dig deeper.
The moment you begin to verify his claims, you might discover there are no projects anywhere. The project is fictitious, an imaginary scheme designed to extort money from you. It isn't prudent to use all your money for a project; how are you supposed to get by? He should know better than that.
You're not his savior. If he chooses to use all his money for a project, he should be ready to weather the storm. Did he consult you before making that decision? If he wants you to come to his rescue, don't believe him blindly, because he might just be lying.
2. The Breadwinner Sob Story
Men may tell you a sob story about being the breadwinner for their families. Even if it's true, aren't they supposed to make arrangements for that? A man might not even be the breadwinner, but he knows that the moment he mentions family, you're going to buy the lie.
Real breadwinners are often very smart and don't spend their money just any old way; they make arrangements to take care of themselves first so they can take care of their families.
This story is believable because it makes him seem family-oriented and responsible. You think that if he can provide for them, he can provide for you, too. But there's no guarantee he's being truthful. Did you enter into an agreement that, while he takes care of his family, you would take care of him? Men tell this lie because it's easy for women to believe.
Ask him questions about exactly how he's spending his money. You might even need to ask his family members, because that story may just be a tool to make it easier for him to extort money from you.
3. Borrowing Money for Future Investments
This boils down to appearing ambitious. If he says he has a project he's working on and needs more money, it suggests he's hardworking. He wants you to give him money to invest because you'll both benefit if it's successful. But how are you sure there's any project in the works? It’s often just an excuse because he knows you'll see him as responsible.
Now is the time to ask for all the details. If he's lying to you, you will figure it out because the answers won't add up. Don't be in a hurry to give him your money. If he's not willing to give you concrete evidence, why should you give him your money?
After this project, there will be another one and another until he runs you dry. This is a common tactic men use because it works, even when no project exists.
4. Accusations of Not Being Supportive
In this scenario, he accuses you of not supporting his dreams and ambitions. He’ll say he’s doing his best and needs your financial support to finish what he started. While supporting your man should come naturally, how long will you keep doing that without being sure what you are supporting? Ask him real questions before you give him your money.
You may want to please him so badly that you’re quick to give without asking questions, but asking is a sign that you are invested. If he's being truthful, he should appreciate your interest. If he takes offense, maybe it's because there's no dream or ambition anywhere; he's just trying to manipulate you.
He's telling that story to get your money, and when you don't believe it, he gets angry because he feels you are going to figure him out. Next time he accuses you of not supporting him, start asking serious questions.
5. The "Money Is Tied Up" Business Lie
Some men lie about having their money tied up in a business venture. They want you to give them your money in the meantime, saying that once their funds are released, they will refund you. Half the time, that's a big fat lie. There's no money coming. Before you provide funds pending his "payout," find out the details.
What project is he talking about? When was it executed, and for whom? Don't take what he says at face value. Many women have lost their money to scams like "give me money now, I'll give it back when I get mine." He won't give you a dime.
The moment you give him your money, you won't get it back. If you're not satisfied with his answers, you're better off not giving him your money at all.
Men use these tricks, lying about projects, family responsibilities, ambitions, and tied-up funds to extort money. Don't be in a hurry to accept these stories because they might all be lies. You need to verify that you're paying for a valid reason.