Being a good girl is great. Despite the growing trend of throwing morals out the window, it’s commendable to be decent, but being good doesn’t always lead to the best outcomes, especially in dating.
Good girls expect to get the best men in relationships and be treated right. This stems from the belief that they deserve the best because they lead modest lives. But that isn’t always the case, as they are often taken advantage of. Here are good girls' habits that leave you exposed and stranded in relationships.
1. Always Putting Him First and Never Putting Yourself First
You put him first all the time in your relationship. It’s good to be selfless when you’re dating someone. You want to do right by them because you love them and want them to feel good, but that doesn’t mean you should always put them before yourself.
You come first. It might sound selfish, but it’s the truth. You need to keep that in mind. If you’re always putting him first, you give him the impression that you don’t matter and that you don’t value yourself. Over time, he gets used to it and starts treating you like someone he can toss around.
When a man sees that you put yourself first most of the time, he values you more. At first, it may feel nice to always be prioritized, but over time, it becomes tiring and boring. A man wants to be with a woman who values herself and isn’t quick to put him first. Always putting him first is a huge turn-off in the long run. Bad girls get the good guys because they don't worship the ground they walk on.
2. Never Saying No and Always Saying Yes
You never say no. You’re always eager to say yes. You probably love him and want to please him, but always saying yes and never saying no isn’t real. It’s unrealistic.
You need to keep it real in a relationship. No matter how much you love someone, you won’t always agree on everything. You need to voice your opinion and say no when something doesn’t sit well with you. Being a yes girl all the time gets tiring. It becomes boring.
At some point, he’ll want a woman with a mind of her own, someone who can say no when something doesn’t feel right and say yes only when she truly means it. Saying yes when you want to say no makes no sense, and it’s one of the reasons boys use and dump you so quickly.
3. Being Overly Forgiving
Being forgiving is a good thing, but being overly forgiving in a relationship can backfire. When you’re too quick to forgive, especially when a man does something wrong, you give him permission to keep doing it.
Before forgiving, he needs to understand the gravity of what he’s done. If you forgive too quickly every time, he’ll repeat the behavior. A man wants to work hard to earn back trust once he’s lost it. That effort creates excitement and respect.
When you constantly say everything is fine, it gets boring. Learn to make him earn your forgiveness. If you don’t, you’ll come across as weak and a pushover, and he’ll keep pushing until he gets tired and moves on.
4. Not Having a Mind of Your Own
You don’t make your own decisions. You’re quick to agree with whatever he says. That’s not attractive. It shows you don’t have a mind of your own.
You’re an adult. You should be able to think for yourself and know what’s good for you and what isn’t. A relationship is two people coming together. If you sit back, say nothing, and let him make all the decisions, you’re not bringing anything to the table.
At first, it might seem cute, but over time, it gets tiring. He starts to feel like you add nothing. You need your own opinions and the ability to take a stand. Compromise is fine, but it shouldn’t be the only option. Having your own mind makes you more attractive and respected.
5. Being Too Nice
It’s fine to be nice, but being too nice is a problem. When you’re too nice, especially with a man, you come across as a pushover. He’ll take advantage of you, and when he’s done, he’ll leave.
You may think being nice will make him love you more, but if you give everything too easily, it loses value. People, especially men, don’t value what they don’t work for. When something comes too easily, it doesn’t feel special.
Sometimes, you need to make him work for your attention and affection. He needs to feel like he could lose you. When there’s no challenge, no excitement, and nothing to look forward to, he’ll get bored - this is often why good girls are single.
These are good-girl habits that make boys use and dump you. Not putting yourself first, always saying yes, being overly forgiving, lacking your own opinions, and being too nice all get tiring over time. Eventually, he gets bored and moves on to the next girl.
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