Think you’re the love of your partner’s life? It’s easy to feel that way when you’re in love. You’re happy to have someone special in your life. They give you the attention you need. What more can you ask for? Well, there’s a chance you’re a rebound. They came to you to get over someone they still love.
Contrary to what you think about being special to them, you might be a distraction from who they really want.
Here are signs that you are a rebound.
1. Their Last Relationship Ended Recently
How long has it been since that person’s last relationship ended? I understand that when a relationship ends, people have to move on. You don’t have to be stuck on your ex, hoping and wishing they would come back to you. I get it, but it doesn’t have to be too soon. Imagine a relationship ended a few days or a few weeks ago, and now they are with you.
They aren’t telling you they want a fling; they’re telling you they want to be with you. This is a sign that you could just be a rebound. They are trying so hard to move on from their ex, and instead of giving themselves the time to heal, they are moving too fast.
They want you to be a distraction and help them get over their ex by using you. You think they are with you because they truly love you, but you might just be a rebound because they haven’t healed properly.
2. They Are Always Talking About Their Ex
When someone you just met is fond of talking about their ex, it’s not a good sign. It means they are still into their ex. They might no longer be together, but constantly talking about that person shows they wish they still had them in their life. When you are a rebound, that person is with you physically, but in their head, they wish you were their ex.
They find every opportunity to mention them. You hear them say, “My ex would have done it this way.” If they were happy being with you, they would hardly remember their ex; the name wouldn’t even come to mind. If they can’t seem to keep their ex's name out of their mouth, you are the rebound they are using to move on. Your presence can’t make them stop because what they feel for their ex is still too strong.
3. Sex Is the Focal Point of the Relationship
If sex is the only connection you have, you’re likely a rebound. If you take sex out of the equation and there’s no emotional connection left, that’s a problem. No matter how hard you try, that person can’t seem to connect with you emotionally. An emotional connection is a huge part of a successful relationship, and if you don't have it, you aren't the real deal—the ex is.
The saddest part is that you can’t force an emotional connection. You either have it or you don’t. If they’re not available emotionally, it’s because they aren’t really that into you. They’re only interested in the sex you're offering as a distraction while they try to hold on to anyone who helps them get over their past.
4. They Can’t Make a Long-Term Commitment
They may say they enjoy being with you and like having you in their life, but they struggle to make a long-term commitment. They don’t see themselves with you in the long run. It’s all about the "now" and how you’re helping them get over their ex.
They don’t think you’re the right fit for them, so they don’t bother making arrangements for the next few months or the next year. As far as they’re concerned, what you have is temporary. They’re just going with the flow. Unless you’re comfortable with that, you should take yourself out of it because you don't have a future with that person.
5. They Want the Relationship to Be a Secret
They don’t want other people finding out about you because they aren't proud to have you as a partner and don’t want to commit for the long haul. If others know about you, it becomes harder for them to leave when they are done using you.
If that person doesn't want to introduce you to friends or family, you might just be a rebound—especially if their last relationship ended recently. If they loved you, they would be eager to flaunt you. If they want to remain a secret, the relationship is going nowhere. It is dead on arrival.
If their last relationship ended recently, they are always talking about their ex, sex is the only connection, they won't commit, and they want to keep you a secret, there is a very high chance you are a rebound. They are just using you to get over someone else. Unless you are okay with that arrangement, it is not cool.
Watch the YouTube video on 5 Warning Signs You Are a Rebound: How to Know if You’re a Distraction