If my partner wanted to dump me, I’d rather know than be taken by surprise. That way, I can devise a strategy for first handling the situation and then moving on. The most difficult breakups are those that happen by surprise.
Imagine waking up one morning and then receiving a message, a call, or being told face-to-face by someone you thought you had a future with that it's over – that can be very devastating. Here are signs that your boyfriend's about to call it quits.
1. He no longer cares as much as he used to
One of the clearest ways to show someone you love them and want to be part of their life is to show them how much care you have. You want to do everything for them. You even go out of your way to make sure they're fine.
A guy who truly loves you and wants to be in your life would do anything to make sure you're okay. Your happiness and satisfaction are his priority. He can come all the way to your house in the middle of the night just to make sure you're fine and sleep well. When you tell him something's wrong, he comes running, regardless of what he's doing or where he is, because he truly cares. It's as though you're a part of him, and until you're fine, he's not fine.
But suddenly, he starts acting differently. You can tell this isn't the same person you used to know. His attention span starts to shorten. When you're together, you say something, but he doesn't hear it. That's a big clue. It's a sign that his heart's turning in another direction, and he's probably taking his time to say goodbye.
He wants you to get used to his absence. He wants you to accept that he's not at your beck and call, because very soon, he won't be around to do all those things for you.
If you truly want to be with someone, especially as a guy, you'll never run out of attention for them. In fact, your attention and care will be the least you can give to them.
2. He's no longer excited about doing things with you
Do you remember back then, when your boyfriend got so excited about the opportunity to do anything with you? It wasn't really about what he wanted to do with you. Having you around made him feel so special, and he'd do anything just to be in the same space as you. He truly loved you. He truly wanted to be with you.
But now, the opposite's true. He doesn't want to do things with you. When you talk about doing things together, you can see that his excitement is very low. It's non-existent.
You're still the same person he fell in love with, the same person he wanted to do things with. So, what’s gone wrong? It's quite simple. His heart no longer lies with you, and he hasn't figured out the perfect time to break the news to you.
A guy who wants to be with you and sees his future with you would always jump at the opportunity to do anything with you. He wants to create beautiful memories with you. Spending time with you's about that. It's about building memories you'll look back on in years to come and smile about.
But now that he no longer sees a future with you, what's the point? Why should he bother creating memories with you when you're no longer in his future? Let’s be real, it's not easy to break up with someone. It's not easy to dump anyone. He's human after all, so he can't just spring it on you. He's beating around the bush.
3. Little things get him riled up
It feels like you constantly have to walk on eggshells around your boyfriend because every little thing you do makes him angry. He gets mad. It feels like you trigger something in him. But that wasn't always the case.
Once upon a time, you could do no wrong in his eyes. He literally worshipped the ground you walked on. Everything you did was perfect. In the real sense, it wasn't perfect, but he was blinded by the love and affection he had for you. But right now, that's already faded, and he's looking for the perfect opportunity to take a walk, to dump you.
He's no longer amused or fascinated with you. If you do anything that doesn't sit well with him, he'll snap. That's a way of letting you know that he's no longer excited about being with you. He's no longer pumped up at the thought of having you around him. He'd rather be somewhere else.
Pay close attention to that. What are those things that are getting him upset right now? Were those things getting him upset before now? The answer's likely no. Something definitely changed, and it's his feelings toward you. He's no longer feeling the same way about you. He no longer wants to be with you.
When you're crazy about someone, even when they do the stupidest or craziest things, you find a way to let it go. You cut them some slack. You know why? Because you have a soft spot for them. No matter what they do, you can't stay angry for so long. You make excuses for them.
4. He begins to avoid you
Once upon a time, this guy used to spend all day with you. You were always together, and if you weren't, you knew exactly where he was because he'd let you know.
It's like saying, if I'm not with you, it's because I'm doing this or that. But right now, you have no idea what he's up to. He always comes up with one excuse or another to avoid seeing you. You guys are supposed to meet up but he comes up with an excuse, saying he's busy. But he's always had a job. How come his job's now getting in the way of both of you being together?
If someone keeps avoiding you, they expect you to understand that they don't want to see you or be with you. But that's not cool because you're not strangers. You guys are supposed to be an item. You're supposed to spend time together.
5. He hardly picks your calls
You don't see him as often as you used to. He's become scarce. You do the right thing by trying to reach him. You call him, but the more you call, the more he ignores your calls. He doesn't pick up because he doesn't even know what to say to you.
Do you remember when, whenever you called him, all it took was one ring for him to answer? That was fun, right? You were probably enjoying all the attention. It was flattering. But that's nowhere to be found now.
It's about time you accepted the truth. If you called him from another number, I can assure you he'd pick up. He's not picking up because he has no time for you anymore and doesn't want to be with you. He wants to dump you. That's why he's not picking up.
6. He'll delete your pictures from his phone
Your pictures'll suddenly disappear from his phone. Why should he keep them when he's already planning his exit? He doesn't want to be with you anymore.
Your pictures would always remind him of you. He probably has someone else he wants to be with, and that person wouldn't be cool with seeing your pictures on his phone. So either way, it's better for him to delete them.
Put yourself in his shoes for a minute. If you didn't want to be with someone anymore, would you have their pictures all over your phone?
It can be hard, but you have to brace up because it's inevitable. There's never a perfect way to deal with rejection or heartbreak. If your boyfriend's planning to dump you, it's understandable that your feelings'll be hurt, and when he eventually does, yes, you'll feel bad about it.
But I can assure you of one thing: you'll be fine. Over time, the feelings of sadness you're experiencing'll begin to fade. At the end of the day, you're good. You're beautiful. You're awesome. You're special. You'll find someone who recognizes all of those good qualities in you. Someone who'd pick you over and over again.