Dating a married man is a choice that some people gladly make. But if that isn’t your cup of tea, you may be mortified to discover that your so-called boyfriend is someone else’s husband. That would leave a sour taste in your mouth. A good number of married men are happy to lure single people into dating them without disclosing their marital status. Here are some signs that they are married, even when they aren't upfront about it.
1. He Never Invites You to His House
This man is an adult and has his own house, but for some reason, he never invites you over. Have you ever thought of the reason? He could be married. If he lives with his family, it wouldn't make sense for him to invite you. As a matter of fact, he never wants you to meet his family because if you do, there’s going to be a disaster.
Even when you try to invite yourself, he declines. He comes up with one excuse or another for you not to come. You guys have been together for a while now, and you don't know where he lives. He only meets you at your place or somewhere else. There has to be something there, and there's a very high chance he just doesn't want you over so you never get to meet his wife or his kids.
2. He Never Spends Holidays or Special Events with You
Holidays and special events are meant for couples to be together. Couples have the best time then because they don't have to worry about work. You’re supposed to have each other to yourselves, but your Mr. Charming is hardly ever around when it's a holiday or a special occasion. Where could he be?
Obviously, he's not working. He probably tells you he is going to spend the holidays with his family, his parents and his siblings. You might be shocked to find out the family he’s referring to isn't his parents. He might just have a wife and kids somewhere. Holidays are special for families, and his wife isn't going to let him out of her sight. There's no way he's going to leave her to be with you on those occasions.
3. He Refuses to Introduce You to Friends and Family
A married man has to be very careful because he doesn’t want his affair with you to be out in the open. The last person he wants to find out about you is his wife. If he introduces you to close friends and family, there's a very high chance his wife is going to find out. Any of those people could let the information out, even if they don't intend to.
The more he hides you, the better for him. Why bring you out when those people know his wife and have a relationship with his family? Bringing you into the mix would be trouble. Keeping you far away is in his best interest. He's hiding you somewhere and only comes to you when he needs you. You need to meet the people who are important to him. If he’s not introducing you and doesn't have a tangible reason, that is a red flag.
4. He Doesn't Speak with You on the Phone at Night
If he ever calls you, it has to be during the day. If you call him and he answers, it also has to be during the day. Once it's night, don't even bother calling and don't expect his call. He’s with his wife and family, so he doesn't have time to speak with you. Sometimes, he might even turn off his phone so the call won't go through, and he will have a "good" reason for it.
Most married men are with their families at night, having dinner and watching TV. How is he supposed to answer your call in the presence of his wife and children? It’s not possible. Even if he answers, he has to sneak away. If he does that over and over, his wife will begin to ask him questions. To avoid getting caught, he doesn't even bother to take your call. If you're dating someone, you should be able to speak with them at any time, especially if there's an emergency.
5. He Won't Connect with You on Social Media
A lot of men are not active on social media, but if he is active and doesn't want to connect with you, there's a high chance he's married. He would rather connect with any other person but you. Even when you send a friend request or follow him, he doesn't accept or reciprocate. He doesn't want to connect because you might just find out about his wife.
He might not post about her, but if you look around, you might just find something. They might be connected, and you might figure out he is married. When you ask why he won't connect, he comes up with flimsy excuses like not wanting to put his personal life online. But your presence on his social media spells trouble for him. If anybody goes snooping, they might put the dots together and figure out he’s having an affair.
If he never invites you to his house, skips holidays with you, hides you from his loved ones, won't talk at night, and stays away from you on social media, there’s a very high chance he is married. He's doing these things to keep you away from his family so his cover isn't blown.
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