Why do good girls remain single? That is one question a lot of people are asking because everybody wants the good stuff. Men also like the good stuff. A man wants to get with a good girl, a girl who would probably be the mother of his kids and the wife of his dreams. So, why are they not getting with all the good girls in town?
It looks as though the so-called bad girls are getting all the good guys and getting married almost immediately. What is wrong? What is happening?
1. They don’t have a social life
They don’t put themselves out there. Where are they supposed to meet a man? In their houses? Of course not. It doesn’t happen that way. Generally, if you want to meet people, you have to go out. You have to put yourself out there so they will see you.
As a girl, if you’re stuck in your house and you never go out, there’s no way you’re going to meet a man. There’s absolutely no way. Fine, you don’t like to go to parties or clubs. You like to stay indoors. But parties and clubs are not the only places you can go.
There are other social events. You can go out with your friends. You can hang out where there are people, and where there are people, there are men, too. A man will not come to your house and knock on your door to meet you. He has to see you somewhere outside your home.
If you’re always locked up inside, you have a lower chance of actually meeting a man. When you look at the so-called bad girls, they are always out there. They go out often, and as a result, they meet many men.
They can choose from the many options available to them. A good girl who doesn’t go out doesn’t even meet any men at all, so she doesn’t have any options to choose from. At the end of the day, one person has so many men to choose from, while the other doesn’t have any.
Do the math. Who is more likely to get hooked? Who is more likely to get married? It’s the bad girl because she has so many options. Good girls remain single because many of them don’t go out.
2. They don’t pay attention to their appearance
You probably know that good girl who pays little to no attention to her appearance. It happens all the time. No matter how morally upright we want to appear, the truth is that appearance matters.
People are naturally drawn to good-looking people and things. If you feel your appearance doesn’t matter and do nothing about it, believing someone should like you only for who you are on the inside, you’re getting it wrong.
Before someone gets to know who you are on the inside, they have to be drawn to you. They have to like what they see on the outside. How you look is what draws them closer. If you don’t attract them by looking at least presentable, you lose them. They won’t even get the chance to know who you are on the inside.
Many good girls are careless about their appearance. They make little effort compared to bad girls. Bad girls go the extra mile. They put in the work to look good, hot, smashing, and eye-catching.
You don’t have to look extravagant. You can look good on a budget. You just need to understand what suits your body type. Once you do, you’ll notice the difference.
3. They lack exposure
Many good girls stay in their shells. They don’t like going out or learning new things. They’re content with what they know and believe it’s enough. In life, you have to keep developing yourself. That requires exposure to new things. Many good girls are fixated on their ideas, perceptions, and opinions.
There’s nothing wrong with having beliefs, but you have to be open. Men don’t like women who aren’t exposed. Every man wants a woman he can proudly showcase. Bad girls strive to upgrade themselves. They interact, learn trends, and develop. Many good girls don’t make that effort. They remain the same and resist change. With exposure and growth, good girls would compete strongly.
4. They are looking for perfection
There is no perfect man. Good girls believe a man must be perfect to be right for them. Every man is a work in progress. Waiting for perfection only leads to waiting forever. Men approach them, but they don’t give them attention because they don’t tick all the boxes.
Bad girls are willing to compromise. They understand that perfection is an illusion. They have seen different scenarios and experiences that show them life isn’t black-and-white; there are gray areas. As a result, they are more accommodating, creating room for imperfection. This doesn’t mean they are selling themselves short. You can be accommodating and still have boundaries.
5. They have a sense of entitlement
Good girls believe their goodness deserves a reward. They expect to be worshipped and treated specially without putting in equal effort. Relationships require give-and-take. Entitlement destroys relationships. Compromise is necessary. Being good should be for yourself, not for rewards.
6. They play hard to get for too long
Playing hard to get is fine, but taking it too far is dangerous. No man wants to chase forever. Bad girls know when to stop. Good girls often don’t. Men eventually give up and move on. Good girls deserve love, but they must recognize effort and respond.
A man can only chase you for so long. If, after trying so hard, they don’t get the desired response, they get frustrated and move on.
Despite the wokeness in society, being good is commendable and shouldn't be traded for anything. However, it’s essential to be intentional about finding a man, especially if you’re interested in doing so. Take the necessary step toward achieving your companionship goal. Don’t leave things to chance. If you want it, go get it.