Being strung along by a man who doesn’t love you anymore nor wants to be with you is a waste of time. Granted, people fall out of love or change their minds about who they want to be with, but it’s only fair to be honest about their intentions. Some men are dishonest; they would rather string you along than call off the relationship. Ultimately, you are hurt more by their lies and betrayal. Here are signs your soon-to-be-ex is tired of you and wants out.
1. He Doesn't Prioritize You Anymore
Once upon a time, you were the center of his world. He would literally leave everything behind just to please you or do things for you. Nothing else mattered as much as you mattered to him. But that doesn’t happen anymore.
For some reason, he doesn’t pay much attention to you. He would rather be doing anything else than be with you. He would choose anything over you. He doesn’t see why he should make you the center of his world anymore, and now you feel like you're not important to him. Guess what? It’s because you’re not. He has identified other priorities he considers more important.
When a guy is interested in building a life with you, he would prioritize you. The moment he changes his mind, he will choose almost everything over you. If there’s a shift in that, it’s because he has found other interests or people. Most men know what they want; if he’s not moving mountains to be with you anymore, it’s a huge sign he’s no longer interested.
2. He Doesn't Speak With You as Much as He Used To
Assume you both live in different places. Previously, you would spend hours on the phone. You would talk nonstop, texting as you went, because you were so into each other. But that’s not the case anymore.
Your man could go for days without even speaking with you. If you don’t call him, he doesn’t call you. If you don’t text him, he doesn’t text you. He has lost interest in communicating and doesn't want to know what you’re up to. You have every reason to be concerned about the sudden shift in attitude. Why is this guy, who used to speak with you all day, no longer interested?
Perhaps he has realized you aren't a good fit, or perhaps he has found someone else. Whatever the reason, if communication drops drastically without a tangible explanation, he’s likely losing interest. A guy who is interested will want to be in your life and in your face.
3. He Doesn't Initiate Things With You Anymore
Once upon a time, he was the planner. He would take the initiative to make things happen, asking whether you wanted to meet or go somewhere. Now, he doesn’t do any of that. If you don’t initiate, it means neither of you can do anything together.
He’s complacent, reluctant, and not eager to do things with you. Something happened: he changed his mind about being with you. You may not know his specific reasons, but his attitude is what you have to work with. Are you going to sit around waiting for him to come around? That doesn’t make sense. If he’s no longer interested and doesn't promise to do better, you're better off without him. You shouldn't wait on a man who clearly no longer shows interest.
4. He Doesn't Make Future Plans With You
He doesn’t say, "How about we do this next week?" or "I see us together in three years." All of a sudden, when he talks about his future, he doesn't include you; it’s always about him alone.
If you're in a serious relationship, there’s a tendency for a man to make plans involving both of you. It’s worrisome if he used to do that and stopped. Even when you try to make future plans, he doesn't seem interested. In his head, he’s probably saying, "Count me out."
His lack of interest doesn't make him a bad person. People lose interest, they get divorced, and they break up. You just need to have a conversation so you understand where you stand. You can move forward with your life immediately, rather than wait with no guarantee.
A successful relationship requires a deep emotional connection. If he’s not giving you tangible reasons for the disconnect, it’s because he’s no longer interested. If you experience most or all of these signs, that relationship is over, at least emotionally. It’s just a matter of time before you officially quit.
You don't have to wait for him to end it. Once you experience these signs, have a conversation. If he isn't saying anything meaningful, it’s up to you to decide whether to remain or walk away. You need to look out for yourself.