Every man deserves love, including broke men. But a relationship is a responsibility that requires money. Traditionally, men are expected to pick up the bills and take care of their women. A man who is poor or broke obviously won’t have the money to meet those responsibilities, putting you in a difficult position.
Here are 5 reasons why you shouldn’t date or marry a broke man.
1. You’ll Suffer a Lack of Everything
You can’t give what you don’t have. A broke guy is broke. He has no money, so he can’t provide many things for you, even the most basic items you’d expect him to handle.
He won’t be able to give you money for basic needs. You need to get your mind off that. As a woman, you might want to do your hair, get a manicure or pedicure, and he won’t be able to help with that. As basic as it sounds, he simply doesn’t have the money.
With a broke man, you’ll lack everything. If you like to keep up appearances, enjoy life, and live comfortably, a broke guy is a no. As long as he’s doing nothing to change his situation, nothing will improve. Sitting around doing nothing won’t bring anyone any money.
You’ll feel lacking in different areas, and it’ll feel like life is unnecessarily hard for you, simply because the person you’re dating isn’t capable of providing anything.
2. You’ll End Up Taking Care of Him
Not only will you lack resources, but you may also end up having to take care of him. If he doesn’t have money and you do, love might push you to help him. Before you know it, you’re taking care of a grown man.
It’s even worse if you’re also struggling and managing the little you have. Now, you’re worrying about yourself and a grown man. A grown man should be able to take care of himself.
Men are egoistic by nature, and any man who knows his worth won’t be comfortable being taken care of by a woman. If a broke guy is comfortable with you carrying his financial burden, that’s a red flag.
You’re a woman. You’re beautiful. You’re a queen. Taking care of a grown man isn’t your responsibility, especially when you’re not married to him. There’s no guarantee the relationship will even last. If you’re not ready to take care of a grown man, don’t even think about dating a broke one.
3. He’ll Despise You for Wanting the Finer Things in Life
There’s nothing wrong with wanting the finer things in life. You’re here to live your best life, not to suffer. A broke guy will be angry with you simply because he can’t afford the lifestyle you want. Seeing you enjoy life or get things elsewhere makes him feel terrible, and instead of fixing himself, he’ll resent you.
He’ll despise you because you desire more. A poor man will try to rain on your parade and make you feel guilty for wanting better. Do you really want to be with someone who makes you feel bad for wanting a good life? Being single and happy is better than being with someone who resents you for dreaming big.
4. He’ll Drive You Crazy With His Insecurity
Broke guys are often deeply insecure because they know they don’t have much to offer financially or materially. They get worried and jittery, especially when you’re doing something meaningful with your life. They assume you’re cheating or mingling with other men who can give you what they can’t.
They become overly possessive, monitoring you constantly. At first, it may look like love, but it quickly becomes suffocating. You’ll crave space and freedom. It’s rare to find a broke guy who’s confident. Their insecurity grows until you can’t bear it anymore. You’ll find it hard to even be yourself around them.
5. He’ll Blame You for His Condition
He’s broke and he's doing nothing to change his situation, yet somehow it becomes your fault. If you ever date a broke guy, get ready to be blamed for his misfortune. He’ll dump all his frustrations on you instead of taking responsibility for his life.
You already have your own problems. Why should your boyfriend blame you for his failures? Instead of working hard, he looks for someone to blame. Broke men shouldn't date until they sort themselves out.
You’re not a savior. A grown man can’t be saved unless he wants to save himself. If you date a broke guy, you’ll become the reason nothing is working out for him, even though he’s doing nothing to change his situation.
People go through rough patches, and being broke temporarily isn’t the issue. The problem is dating a man who’s broke and doing nothing to improve his life. A man with potential who’s actively trying to change his narrative is different. With such a man, you can build together. But a man who’s complacent and looking for a woman to take care of him is a red flag.