You may be one of the billions of users on social media. As you’re having a good time online, scrolling through profiles, there’s a high chance you’ll come across the profile of someone you like, someone who tickles your fancy, and you’d want to get in touch with them. There’s nothing wrong with that. We sometimes meet people on social media.
Nowadays, everybody’s looking for the best ways to connect with that special person they’ve found online. Sometimes you’re looking for a romantic relationship, and other times you just want friendship. Whatever the case, you need to go about it the right way, or you won’t get their attention. They’ll kick you out of their DMs if you don’t press the right buttons or pander to their emotions the right way.
In this article, I’ll be giving you tips on how to shoot your shot in DMs the right way.
1. Be Ready for the Outcome
There’s no guarantee that what you’re about to do will turn out well. Nope, there’s no guarantee. You’re the one looking for something. You’re the one looking for a relationship or friendship. The person you’re reaching out to might not be looking for the same thing, so you can’t tell how they’re going to react.
To avoid feeling depressed or bad about rejection, you need to be prepared because there’s a very high chance rejection might happen. If they don’t give you the attention you’re looking for, how do you accept it? How do you live with it? If you’re someone who doesn’t know how to handle rejection, maybe entering their DM isn’t for you. You might need to look elsewhere because this is for the strong-hearted.
People who don’t mind rejection understand that it can mess with your head. It can really affect you, so you need to think it through. Are you okay with rejection? If so, it’s fine to go ahead. But if not, it’s better to avert that plan so you don’t mess yourself up.
2. Follow the Person First
If you’re going to slide into someone’s DM, the least you can do is follow them. When you follow them, you’re trying to get their attention. It would be weird to contact them without following them because they will feel you’re arrogant. Following them is a subtle way of saying you like them and appreciate their content.
3. Like Only a Few of Their Photos
You may like this person and follow them for that reason, but you don’t need to like all their posts. You know why? That’s creepy. Imagine having fifty or a hundred posts, then someone you don’t know suddenly likes all of them. That would creep you out. Don’t do that. Like just a few posts to let them know you’ve been on their page, but don’t overdo it. You might be a sweet person, but to them, you’re a complete stranger.
Don’t give the wrong impression. Like a few posts, get their attention, then proceed from there. Remember, you’re trying to get noticed, not blocked.
4. Use Interesting Icebreakers
You’re a total stranger to this person. They don’t know you, so you can’t just say, “Hey, what’s up?” A thousand other people have said the same thing. There’s nothing interesting about that.
Get creative. Look through their profile. Comment on something specific. If they have a pet, talk about it. If they’re swimming, mention it. Use something they’ve posted to start the conversation. That way, they’re more likely to respond.
They don’t owe you a response, so you need to give them a reason to reply. Be interesting. Say something that piques their curiosity. Nobody ignores an interesting icebreaker.
5. Avoid Bombarding Them With Messages
Send one or two messages and hold off. If they want to respond, they will. Bombarding them won’t make them reply faster. It’ll only creep them out.
They owe you nothing. You can’t force them to respond. If you overwhelm them, they might even block you. Take it easy. They have a life. They might be online and still choose not to respond, and that’s okay.
6. Be Moderate With Compliments
Compliments are nice, but when you overdo them, they become uncomfortable. Say a few nice things and stop. Don’t idolize them. That’s creepy.
If you’ve said what you need to say and have nothing interesting to add, just zip it. Too many compliments can ruin everything.
7. Avoid Personal and Sensitive Questions
Stay away from sensitive topics like religion, politics, and sexuality. Keep things light and respectful. These topics could rile them up. Focus on less serious matters. Getting personal could turn them off.
8. Be Yourself
Don’t try too hard to impress anyone. When you do, you might start lying just to look good. Eventually, the truth will come out.
Answer questions honestly. You can’t force friendships or relationships. Anyone who doesn’t like you for who you are isn’t meant for you. If it’s meant to work, it will.
At the end of the day, everyone wants to be with someone interesting. If you come across that way, people will welcome you. The next time you see a profile you like, don’t be afraid to shoot your shot. Follow these tips, and the outcome will likely be good.