Being a side piece isn't as glamorous as it seems. It's not something most women want, but life happens, and sometimes you just end up right there. If you're the other woman in his life and you want to flip the coin and become his main girlfriend or wife, here’s exactly what to do.
1. Be Drama-Free
No man in his right mind will leave his girlfriend or wife for a woman who is full of drama. Peace of mind is something men value so much. Every man is looking for that woman who gives him peace of mind, that woman who makes him feel so comfortable that he forgets all his troubles.
I you're going to nag him and make his life unbearable, guess what? He is going to drop you like it's hot. Remember, he already has a woman in his life. If you're not going to make him feel relaxed, safe, and comfortable around you, you are going to lose him.
One of the reasons he's probably stepping out on his girlfriend is that she's giving him trouble. So if you're going to add to his trouble, why should he be with you? It doesn't make any sense. But if you are very peaceful, don't nag him, and don't create any trouble at all, you stand a very high chance not only of having him anytime you want but also of having him completely.
If he comes to you and can just relax without anything to worry about, he will come every time. You don't even need to call his number before he comes. He will run to you, especially if his girlfriend is the troublesome type. If she's the type who is full of drama, he will always want to move away from her. And when he does, he will come running to you because, with you, he will have the peace of mind he desires.
2. Allow Him to Breathe
You need to give him some space. You probably want him by your side all the time, but that's not realistic. A man needs some space to breathe. He might, but you are not the center of his world. He has other things to think about. After spending time with you and having all the fun, he has to return to reality. He has to take care of his business, no matter what it is.
If you're always bugging him and always asking him to see you, you will come across as desperate. No man likes that. You need to give him space to breathe. If this man likes you as much as you think he does, he will always come back to you. If all you think about is him, there's a problem. It means you're going to keep bothering him. You would bother him so much that he would want to stay away from you.
3. Always Look Your Best
As a side piece, you have no excuse for not looking your best. Remember, this guy already has a woman in his life. If he's going to be with you, he needs to feel like you are way better than his woman. You might not be as beautiful as she is, but you can always upgrade.
Don’t ever let him see you when you’re not at your best. Whenever he’s around, you have to dress your best. You need to make him believe you are all that. That you are a trophy. When he sees you, he should be happy. He should be proud of you.
Go shopping, get good clothes, always look good, and smell very, very good. When he's with you, he should feel like you are the best woman in the world. His main woman might not be aware of this. She might let herself go and not look so great all the time. That could be one reason he stepped out on her in the first place.
4. Be Fun and Interesting
If a man could step out on his girlfriend or wife to be with you, then you should know he is looking for some fun and excitement. Anytime he is with you, you have one role to play: make sure he has all the fun in the world.
This is not the time for you to be boring. If you're naturally boring, you need to step up. Whenever he is with you, you need to have interesting conversations. Stimulate his mind. It's not all about the bedroom. Your bedroom skills have to be great, but beyond that, how engaging are you?
Be his adventure buddy. Come up with interesting places you can both go to and have fun. Men love adventure. Everybody loves to have fun. If that man is always happy and excited whenever he is with you because of the fun you create, why wouldn't he want to be with you?
5. Let Him Be in Charge
Women are stepping up and taking charge. But guess what? Every man wants to be in charge of the relationship. No matter how modern you are, if you really want him to upgrade you from side piece to main chick, you need to allow him to take charge of the relationship.
Let him be the man. This is not the time for you to act independently and bossily, wanting to take charge of the relationship. You have to take the back seat and let him be the man.
Massage his ego. Remember, you have a mission. What is it going to cost you to just take the back seat and allow him to be the man?
6. Don't Be Materialistic
If you really want him to take you seriously and make you his main woman, you need to act like you're not after his money. Men are not stupid. They can tell when a woman is all about their money. No man in his right mind would want to keep you if he knows you're materialistic.
But when you make him believe you're not all about the money, he would get so comfortable around you that he would willingly give you things even without you asking. Stop bothering him with unnecessary demands. Yes, you need some money, but only the right amount to get by.
7. Have Something Going for Yourself
Women can sometimes be complicated. Once they have a man who takes care of their bills, they feel like doing nothing. They just want to sit around and spend money.
If you want him to move you from your position as a side chick to that of a main chick, you need to get up and do something for yourself. Every man wants a woman who is independent, a woman who can hold her own. Don't just sit around waiting for him.
When he sees that you are always grinding on your own, with your own hustle, your own career or business, and earning your own money, he will first respect you, and secondly find you even more attractive.
At the end of the day, every man wants a woman who brings out the best in him, a woman who nudges and encourages him to be the best version of himself.