Every girl wants to be the main woman in her man’s life, not the side piece. You want to be the woman of his dreams and the center of his world. But sometimes, unfortunately, you might find yourself being his side piece.
This man tells you that you are everything to him and the center of his world, but in reality, you are the other woman. If you’re done being a side piece and want to move on to a better place, here’s how to do it.
1. He Has a Calendar for Seeing You
As his side piece, you can’t see him whenever you want because he’s not available to you all the time. You’ve gotten used to the idea of him having a calendar for you. He has probably decided that every Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday is the day he’ll see you. Anything outside those days isn’t possible. He has his primary woman somewhere he answers to, and until the situation allows him to be unavailable, you can’t see him.
What’s the point of dating somebody you can’t see whenever you want? You have to wait until it’s your turn. Men are busy, but they aren’t too busy for a woman they claim to love.
Ask yourself, can you see your man when you need him? If you’re in distress, can he come to your rescue, or do you have to wait for a particular day? If that’s the case, you are truly a side chick. The main woman has access to her man at any time, any day.
2. He Leaves Immediately After Sex
Instead of staying to enjoy the moment, talking, and spending quality time with you, he gets up and leaves immediately after sex. He comes to get what he wants, and once he’s done, he takes off. You need to ask yourself if that’s all you’re good for. A man who claims you are his girlfriend should be with you even when nothing is happening, even when there’s no intimacy.
If he’s always quick to get in bed with you and quick to leave afterward, you are most likely a side piece.
3. You’re Excited Over the Barest Minimum
Whenever he does the barest minimum, you’re excited. Whenever he calls you, you’re happy. He should be doing these things all the time. The reason you’re excited is that you know deep down you’re not the center of his world.
You hardly see him, so when he says he’s coming over, you’re overly excited. You have to wait for a particular day on his calendar, and it shouldn’t be that way.
Any man who claims to love you should make time for you and go the extra mile. You don’t have to settle for less. If you’re excited over the barest minimum, that tells you everything you need to know.
4. He Doesn’t Want to Attend Events With You
Couples go out together. Outings are opportunities to spend time together outside the house. If your man never wants to be seen outside with you, ask yourself what he’s hiding. If you keep inviting him to events and he always comes up with an excuse, that’s a sign.
There’s a woman out there he’s proud to go out with. If he doesn’t want to be seen with you, you’re not the woman he wants to be associated with.
5. He Avoids Long-Term Commitments
He doesn’t talk about the future, and when you bring it up, he brushes it off. Why would he make plans with you if he doesn’t see you in his future? Side chicks are temporary. He’s passing the time while waiting for what he really wants.
A man who loves you is excited to talk with you about the future. If he avoids it, you’re on your own.
6. He Avoids Public Displays of Affection
While some men are private, a little public display of affection (PDA) doesn’t hurt. Holding hands or showing affection occasionally is normal. If he avoids all forms of PDA, it’s because he isn’t proud to be seen with you. He doesn’t want any evidence that you’re together. He’s comfortable with you behind closed doors but not in public.
A man who loves you wants the world to know he’s with you. If that’s not happening, you’re a side piece.
Being a side piece isn’t exciting unless you’re fully aware of and comfortable with it. If you weren’t aware before, now you are. What you do with this information is up to you. Remember, don’t settle for less in a relationship. You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and dignity.