It must feel nice to know that, despite breaking up with your ex, they still fancy you and are still stuck on you. It makes you feel good about yourself and boosts your ego. This is even more welcoming if you’re nursing feelings about reconciling with your ex. You may be wrong about your assumptions. Exes don’t always hang around; they sometimes move on.
Here are signs that your ex has moved on.
1. They Don’t Speak With You As Much As They Used To
Maybe the breakup was mutual, and you both decided you might not be dating anymore, but you could still be friends. So you decided to remain friends.
Initially, it was all good. You were still talking to each other like everything was fine. But now, that’s not the case. They don’t speak with you as much as they used to. You probably used to talk on the phone all day, but the frequency of the calls gradually decreased. Now, you can’t even remember the last time you spoke with them. That’s a sign they have other things taking up their time.
They’re spending time with other people. They no longer have time for you. You might not want to hear it, but it’s the truth. If they’re not talking to you, they’re talking to someone else they feel is deserving of their time.
You’re no longer together, so they feel no obligation to speak with you constantly. If you’re no longer speaking with them as much as you used to, it’s a sign they’re spending time with other people. You need to accept that. They have a right to meet other people and build relationships. This may hurt if you haven't gotten over your ex.
Instead of hanging on and believing they’ll come back and that things will be as good as they used to be, you need to accept the reality that they’ve moved on. The sooner you do that, the better. It allows you to move on, too, and build even better relationships.
2. They’ve Returned All Your Items
You probably gave them some things while you were together, or you left some of your things at their place. At the time, there was nothing wrong with that.
But the moment you broke up and decided to go your separate ways, they started returning your items. Initially, they might have been okay keeping those things because they wanted something to remind them of you, but they returned them one after another.
Now, they have nothing of yours left. You can’t think of a single thing that belongs to you that’s still with them. That’s a sign they’ve moved on. They needed to return everything so they’d have nothing left to remind them of you.
If they’ve returned everything you ever gave them or left at their place, it means they’ve moved on. They needed to create space for someone else. They’re no longer stuck on you. The sooner you accept that truth, the better, because you’re doing yourself no good by believing someone who has moved on is still stuck on you.
3. They’ve Unfollowed You on Social Media
When you were together, you were probably following each other. Even after the breakup, they might have still followed you.
Then all of a sudden, they stopped following you. Not just on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook, but everywhere. That’s a sign they don’t want to be reminded of you. Seeing your face reminds them of what you had together.
So they unfollowed you and cut you off on all social media platforms because they’ve moved on. They might be seeing someone else now and don’t want constant reminders of you. It wasn’t an accident. They did it intentionally so they could move on peacefully. That’s a huge sign your ex has indeed moved on. The question is, have you moved on?
4. They’ve Stopped Asking Mutual Friends About You
After the breakup, they might have still asked about you, and you probably thought it was cute. But now they’ve stopped asking. You know why? They don’t care anymore. That doesn’t make them a bad person. It just means they’ve moved on.
If you no longer hear from mutual friends that your ex asked about you, that should tell you something. You no longer mean as much to them. It might hurt, but it’s reality. When people break up, they need to move on.
Rather than feeling bad, take it in good faith and find a way to move on, too. Holding on might prevent you from meeting other wonderful people who could be even better for you. It's hardly a good idea to go back to your ex.
5. They Aren’t Mad or Jealous About You Seeing Someone Else
If they were still interested in getting back with you, the idea of you being with someone else would upset them. If they’re not mad or jealous, it’s a sign they don’t really care. It doesn’t mean they wish you harm. They just don’t care because they’ve accepted that there’s no future between you.
If the thought of you seeing someone else doesn’t bother them, that’s a clear sign they’ve moved on. They couldn’t care less who you’re with. If you really care about them, you should be okay with that, especially if you don’t want to get back together.