Flirting with your boss may be unprofessional, but sometimes, it's necessary if you want to climb up the career ladder. Humans are emotional. Despite the requirements and standards in the workplace, pandering to your boss' emotion will help you gain favors from them.
The idea is to make them like you and go the extra mile to offer you things on a platter.
Here's how to flirt with your boss without getting fired:
1. Maintain Intentional Eye Contact
You see your boss almost every day at work, so there's nothing new about looking at them, but there's something about making eye contact continuously. Normally, people don't make eye contact unless they are having a conversation or trying to get something. Whenever you're having a conversation with your boss, you need to look them in the eye and make it obvious.
Maintain eye contact throughout your conversation. If you don't normally do this, the minute you begin, they will start wondering what you're up to. They will know that something has changed. If your boss is sensitive, continuous eye contact gives them a hint that you are interested.
It can feel like you're stripping them of their clothes; depending on your relationship, they will get the message. If your boss is the shy type, it could make them feel a little bit uncomfortable, but that’s okay. You're only flirting, and if they have any interest at all, they will take the hint to flirt back.
2. Smile at Them Often
It might seem like a basic thing to do, but a good smile works wonders and could melt the hardest of hearts. When you smile at your boss regularly, you earn a soft spot in their heart. Your job is to work for them, but smiling isn't a required part of it. When you do it often, you're indirectly telling them that you like them, you enjoy their company, and you enjoy seeing them.
If you have a beautiful smile, that is a plus because it would make them feel so good that they would always want to be around you. Even if they are away from you, remembering your smile can make them feel good about themselves.
3. Appreciate Their Sense of Humor
Your boss might not be the funniest person in the world, but when they make the effort to say something funny, that is your cue to laugh. You need to laugh well and let them know they are funny. People like to think they have what it takes to make others laugh. When your boss says something even remotely funny, just laugh out loud.
You are telling them indirectly that you admire them. Most people like to be around those who laugh a lot. When you laugh often around your boss, you give the impression that you are a fun, easy-going person who isn't hard to please.
You're not under any obligation to laugh at their jokes, so doing so could make you their favorite person in the office. It serves as an indicator of your interest.
4. Offer Compliments on Professional Milestones
You have a professional relationship, so you can't go around throwing unnecessary compliments. If you do that, you might rub them the wrong way, so know your boundaries. However, when they close a deal or achieve a milestone, it's only normal to compliment them. Seize the opportunity to recognize their success.
If possible, give them a handshake; a gentle handshake is not harmful at all. You are only appreciating them for a good job. If your boss is a nice person, they would reciprocate and appreciate the role you played in their achievement. They might even stretch their hand for that handshake or open up their arms for a warm hug.
5. Ask Engaging Questions During Task Assignments
When they assign tasks to you, you don't have to just say "yes, sir" or "yes, ma’am" and get to work. Seize the opportunity to engage them in conversation. Ask them questions; you might even know the answers to some, but ask anyway. The idea is to interact more.
Get them talking, ask questions, and share your opinions. While you do that, don't forget to maintain eye contact and smile. They will grow fond of you and might even begin to reciprocate by laughing with you or paying you compliments when you do a good job.
As the interaction gets closer, your smiling and eye contact will be all the clues they need. If they are interested, they will make a move, understanding that you might not be in a position to do so yourself.
To successfully flirt with your boss without losing your job, use these tools to ensure you interact more until they become fond of you. Use your wit and present a more likable front.
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