Confidence can make a big difference in your life. The contrast between walking into the room with your head down and raising it is stark. People tend to treat you much better when they notice how confident you are.
You command more respect and set boundaries with people when you are sure of yourself. But confidence isn't always inherent. Sometimes you need to work hard to cultivate it.
Here's how to be the most confident person in the room:
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1. Cultivate a Positive Mindset
Confidence begins in your mind. If you feel that you’re not confident, it will reflect in your actions and even in the things that you say. If you feel that you are confident, you will act the part and look the part. When people see you, they will see the confidence in you. It doesn't matter what anybody says about you; they probably don’t rate you or think highly of you, but who cares? What matters is what you think of yourself. If you continue to feel like you’re not good enough, it will always reflect in the things that you do.
You are more than enough. You need to start believing that you deserve the best in life. This is something that you need to do even before you walk into the room. You don't walk in and all of a sudden start feeling that way; it might be too late because if your energy is low, you might not be able to pick it up in that moment.
Before you even get into things, you need to prep yourself. Raise your vibration and feel like the most confident person in the room. Remember all the good things about yourself, do some positive affirmations, and be intentional about feeling good. Other people are human beings like you; they are not better than you. Once you are intentional about having positive thoughts, your confidence will come from within.
2. Prioritize Personal Grooming
You would be surprised at the transformation that just a little grooming can bring about. Nobody wakes up looking picture perfect—not even your favorite celebrities. It’s about the efforts that you put into it. You need to groom yourself; otherwise, you are going to look out of place. Once you feel out of place, your confidence will be so low you can’t even hide it. Put in the work to enhance your appearance.
You need to smell really nice; wear some good perfume or use deodorant. If you don’t smell nice, you begin to feel it, and it reflects in the way you interact with people. You will feel timid and won’t want to get close to anyone.
If you have bad breath, you won’t feel confident because you feel like your breath stinks, and you wouldn't want people to find out. Enhance your wardrobe too. I’m not talking about breaking the bank to buy the most expensive clothes; it’s about looking smart.
You can wear the least expensive clothes and still look smart if you understand your body type. When you put in the work to groom yourself, your confidence comes from within because you know you are good to go.
3. Commit to Preparation
If you’re going to do something, don’t wait until that thing happens. Don’t show up unprepared or walk into the room without a clue of what you’re going to do there. If you showed up for an exam without being prepared, you would fail because you don’t understand the questions. You need to prepare yourself ahead of time. If you have a meeting, ask yourself possible questions: what is the agenda, the goal, and the aim?
By the time you answer those questions, you’ll be able to come up with possible things to say. Try to figure out the value that you can bring to the discussion. Once you know what to say, you will keep talking. If you have no idea what to say, you’re just going to keep quiet and look timid while others interact. Being prepared makes you speak with authority because you’re sure.
Don’t walk into situations unprepared because it will make your confidence so low that you’ll feel like you don’t even belong there. Take the time to prepare as much as you can so that when you show up, you’ll be ready for the day.
4. Acknowledge Your Achievements
Sometimes we forget who we are and how far we have come. You are still here; you’ve come so far on this journey. It’s so easy to dwell on the things that are not working out or the negatives, but that will only make you feel bad and lose your confidence.
You need to be intentional about identifying your achievements. You are in that room because you deserve to be there. People don’t want to associate with losers or those who have nothing to offer.
If you are there, it is because you bring something to the table. You are not there by chance. Stop feeling like everyone else is better than you; that is not true. Perhaps you need to remind yourself of how far you’ve come. Once you understand that you bring value, your best version will come out effortlessly.
If you forget for a minute who you are, take note of your achievements and begin to count them. You are even greater than you think you are. When you remember your achievements, you will shine bright like the confident person you are.
5. Command the Space with Posture and Speech
Your posture is very important. When you walk into the room, don’t act like you missed your way. Don’t put your head down or slouch. You need to raise your head up and balance your shoulders. Walk like someone who knows where they are going and believes they deserve to be there. If you’re walking in for the first time, don’t walk straight like a robot; take the environment in and look around.
When you’re sitting down, sit upright and raise your head. When you’re talking, speak with authority. This is why you need to prepare ahead, because then you’ll be making sense. Don’t look away like you’re shy or nervous; look at people in the eye.
Take your time; you don’t have to speak so fast, especially if you are not a fast talker. When you take your time, people will listen. If you’re in a hurry to talk, it feels like you don’t believe people are enjoying what you’re saying. Take your time, and you will express yourself even better.
Being very confident always gives you the best outcomes in life because you know your worth and aren’t shy about expressing it or demanding what you deserve. If you are not confident, people will want to take advantage of you. Remember to have a positive mindset, groom yourself, prepare ahead, remember your achievements, and maintain good posture.
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