You’ve probably broken up with your ex, and now you want them to realize the treasure they had but never valued. Humans can be funny. Most of the time, we don’t value what we have until we lose it. Your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, wife or husband, may not have valued you while you were together, and it’s okay to make them regret losing you.
Here are 6 ways to do that.
1. Cut Off All Contact With Them
Cutting off ties with your ex might not be something you want to do, especially if you’re still really into them, but it’s necessary. It’s important. Humans don’t value what they have much of the time, so you need to create your absence. You need to make your ex feel it. Think of it as a commodity. People generally love and value scarce commodities, but when a commodity is everywhere, nobody even wants to look at it because it’s easily accessible.
The same thing happens with humans. When you’re readily available, people tend not to value you. When you and your ex started dating, they were probably so into you. They couldn’t go a day without talking to you or seeing you. But over time, you became so available that they probably forgot how important you were and what you were bringing to the table.
Now that you’re no longer dating, you need to make it clear that you’re no longer at their beck and call. Cut off all contact with them, especially when you have no intention of getting back with your ex. Don’t call them, don’t text them, and don’t try to seek closure. You can give yourself the closure you need. You are all the closure you need.
Once you cut off all contact, they will begin to miss you. When they start to miss you, they might realize they’ve lost someone very special. Block them on social media if you have to. You want them to know you’re not available. Create your absence and make it known. Delete their number if you have to, so you’re not tempted to call them.
2. Grow and Develop Yourself
There’s nothing to miss or regret about someone who’s stagnant. You don’t want your ex to keep seeing you in the same place they left you. You want to grow, improve, and move on to higher ground.
There’s something very sexy and attractive about success. When you’re successful, people want to associate with you. Now is the time to start doing what will get you to your next level. Forget long-term goals for now and focus on short-term goals. What can you start doing now to see results in a few months?
You can start by getting in better shape. No matter how you look right now, you can look better. There’s nothing more regretful for an ex than seeing the person they used to be with look hotter than ever. Consider hitting the gym to work out and get that revenge body.
Apart from working out, there are other ways to improve yourself. The goal is to be better than you were when you were dating your ex. When they see how well you’re doing, they’ll wish they were there to share that growth with you. The more you grow, the more they’ll regret ever losing you.
Developing yourself isn’t just about getting back at your ex. It’s for your own good. In the long run, you’ll benefit and be glad you did.
3. Live Your Best Life
Live your best life now more than ever. As you grow and develop, start ticking things off your bucket list. Those fun, adventurous things you’ve always wanted to do? Now is the time to do them.
You’re no longer with your ex. Nobody is holding you back. Go out and live life to the fullest. Apart from doing this for yourself, your ex will hear about it through mutual friends. When you’re busy living your best life, it will get back to them.
Go on that vacation you’ve always wanted. Do those fun activities. Hang out with your friends. Don’t sit at home by yourself. A breakup is not the end of the world. If you want your ex to regret losing you, show them you’re living life fully without them.
They probably thought you wouldn’t do better without them. Prove them wrong. When they hear how well you’re doing, they’ll feel jealous and wish they were there with you.
4. Post Your Best Photos on Social Media
You’re not going to call or text them. You’ll let social media do the talking. Post your best photos and let them see how well you’re doing. They may not like or comment, but trust me, they’re watching. Even if they don’t see it directly, mutual friends will let them know. When they see how awesome you’re doing, it will hit them hard.
Take photos from your best angles. Only post your best pictures. Nobody posts bad images on social media. Focus on moments where you’re doing exciting things and enjoying life. Your ex will see it and wish they had never let you go.
5. Be Prepared for a Chance Meeting
There’s a chance you might run into your ex, so be ready. Always look your best. Never be caught off guard. When they see you, they should see you at your best. You also need to be mentally prepared. Confidence is very attractive. Stay calm and relaxed, and talk to them like you would to a stranger.
Don’t discuss the breakup. Talk about how well you’re doing, the places you’ve been, and how great life has been. Make a good impression. They need to see that you’ve moved on and that life is better without them.
6. Say No to Any Meet-Up
If your ex asks to reconnect, decline politely. Saying no makes them crave your attention even more. Don’t give them the impression you’re still available. Let them know you’re busy with life, work, and having fun. This shows you’re in control now. The more you say no, the more they’ll regret letting you go.
Ruffling your ex’s feathers and making them jealous can be an ego boost. However, you need to ensure that you have gotten over your ex and that you are not doing that to win them back, because that could backfire. Have fun with it and focus on moving on with your life.