Every woman wants a grown man who can make his own decisions. As a man, he’s traditionally expected to take the lead and hold the fort. If that’s the kind of man you want, then a mama’s boy isn’t for you because he’s the exact opposite. He can’t make any significant decisions without consulting his mom. This might seem trivial to you at first, but over time it becomes a major issue because she’ll constantly be in the picture.
Here are 5 signs he’s a mama’s boy.
1. He Speaks With His Mother Every Single Day
He can’t go a single day without speaking with his mother. Don’t get me wrong, there’s no problem with men speaking with their mothers regularly. In fact, if you aren’t speaking with your mother regularly as a man, there’s a problem somewhere. But when he can’t go a day without speaking with her, that’s a sign.
For some mama’s boys, it’s even worse. They don’t just speak with their mothers every day; they speak several times a day. They’re always calling and talking. If they aren’t talking to you on the phone as their partner, they’re on the phone talking to their mother. He can’t go for long hours without speaking with her, and that can be a problem for a man in a relationship.
He’s supposed to give his woman his undivided attention, especially when he isn’t busy with work or other important things. When he’s always on the phone with his mother, he won’t have the time to speak with you as much as he should. That’s a clear sign he’s a mama’s boy.
2. He Tells His Mother Everything
A grown man is supposed to keep certain things to himself, away from his mother. That’s why he’s an adult. If he needs to talk to someone, he can talk to his partner or even his friends. But when he feels the need to tell his mother every single thing, including things that should remain private, that’s what mama’s boys do.
They run everything by their mother. As you’re telling him personal things about your relationship and yourself, he’s telling his mom all of those things. You think the things you tell him will stay between both of you, but you’re wrong.
If you notice that his mother knows you more than she should, someone is feeding her that information. And that person is your partner, because he’s a mama’s boy.
3. His Mother Can Do No Wrong in His Eyes
A lot of men idolize their mothers, and that’s understandable. She gave birth to him, took care of him, and nurtured him. That’s fine. But nobody is perfect.
When he believes his mother is right even when it’s obvious she’s wrong, that’s a problem. He loves her so much that all he sees is perfection. Even when she’s clearly doing something wrong, he justifies it.
If a man sees nothing wrong in everything his mother does, even when other people and even you think otherwise, that’s a sign. Loving someone also means recognizing when they’re wrong. When he can’t do that with his mother, he’s a mama’s boy.
4. He Runs Every Decision by His Mother
He’s a grown man, yet he can’t make decisions without running them by his mother. She has the final say in everything he does. It doesn’t matter what you think or say; whatever his mother decides, he’s going to do.
You might talk things through with him, weigh all the options, and agree on a decision. Then he speaks with his mother, and suddenly everything changes. He comes back and tells you he isn’t doing it anymore because his mother thinks it isn’t a good idea.
That’s a problem. There’s nothing wrong with seeking advice from your mother occasionally, but when he can’t make a single decision without her approval, that’s not normal. At that point, he’s a mama’s boy, and he needs to accept it.
5. He Wants You to Be Like His Mother
He sees his mother as perfect and wants you to be just like her. Everyone is different. Everyone is unique. You can only be yourself. When he constantly compares you to his mother and expects you to act, speak, or do things like she does, that’s a major red flag. He wants a replica of his mother, not a partner with her own identity.
You can never be his mother, and trying to be will only lead to frustration. His mother might be great, but you also have the right to be great as yourself. If he wants you to replace his mother in every sense, that’s clear proof he’s a mama’s boy.
Dating a mama’s boy feels like being in a relationship with his mother. It’s never just the two of you; it’s always three people involved. He can’t make up his mind without consulting her, and that’s a huge problem. If you notice most of these signs in your man, he might just be a mama’s boy.
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