You think he loves you, and you're very happy about it. But wait a minute, does he love you or the comfort you offer him? To put it directly, does he love you or your money? There’s a misconception that women are the only gold diggers, but men can be gold diggers, too.
Here are signs that your man is with you for the benefits.
1. He Always Suggests Things He Can’t Afford
There’s nothing wrong with a guy talking about the good things in life and desiring them. But if he’s always talking about the most expensive stuff he can’t afford, what is he up to?
He’s telling you all these things so you can make them happen. If he’s talking about an expensive car, an expensive watch, or a vacation he clearly can’t afford, he’s expecting you to step in.
He doesn’t want to come out and say, “Babe, can you do this for me?” because that would make him look bad. So he drops hints, hoping you’ll get the clue and offer to help him get those things.
If he keeps saying he wants this and wants that when he clearly doesn’t have the means, that’s a sign he’s after your money. He wants you to use your money to do those things for him, so you need to wise up.
2. He Is Always Talking About His Money Problems
Don’t get me wrong, a man can experience financial difficulties from time to time. We all do. But when he makes a habit of constantly talking about money problems, it’s because he wants you to offer help.
He doesn’t want to come out straight and say, “Babe, I need money.” So instead, he complains. Today, it’s bills. Tomorrow, it’s sending money to his mother. The next day, it’s his sister or his brother. There’s always one money issue or another.
If he’s always complaining about not having enough money to do stuff, he’s hoping you’ll step in. He knows you have money to spare, and he wants you to bring it out. If you don’t, he’ll keep complaining until you do.
3. He Borrows Money and Never Pays It Back
A man can face financial challenges. There’s nothing wrong with borrowing money, even from your woman, as long as it isn’t a habit and the money is paid back.
But if he’s always borrowing from you and never paying back, that’s a problem. He feels your money is his. He doesn’t see the need to pay you back because he believes you have enough to cover both of you.
If you bring it up and he starts a fight or turns it into an argument just because you asked for your own money, that’s a red flag. Don’t ignore it. The sooner you address it, the better, because one day you might wake up and realize your money is gone.
4. He Gets Upset When You Give Other People Money
A man who is with you for your money feels that your money is his. When you help your family or friends financially, it becomes a problem. He feels there won’t be enough left for him.
If he becomes paranoid, nervous, or unnecessarily upset whenever you want to help someone else, think about it. If he weren’t focused on your money, he wouldn’t be so concerned.
He wants to be the only one benefiting from your money. Nobody else is allowed to enjoy it. That’s a clear sign he’s after your money.
5. He Has a History of Dating Wealthy Women
Maybe he’s dated one or two wealthy women, and that’s fine. But if his dating history shows he’s only been with women wealthier than he is, that’s a sign.
It means he’s always looking for women with money so he can benefit from it. If a woman isn’t wealthy, he won’t go near her. And now you’re with him because you have money, too. As far as he’s concerned, you’re just like the others.
If you choose to help your man financially, that’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with that. But don’t let anyone take advantage of you. Do it because you want to, not because someone is being manipulative.