Tracy had known David for about a year. When she resumed work that Monday morning and saw the dashing young man who had just been hired, she couldn’t help but steal glances at him every now and then. Yes, he was cute, but there was something endearing about him that she couldn’t explain. And when he walked up to her, to introduce himself as the “new staff” she saw a man who wasn’t seated on a high horse because of his above-average looks and a first-class degree from a top western University.
As a JJC (stranger), he didn’t know his way around things in the office, and she was elated when he asked her to be his wing-man, to guide him around - a role which she played to the very best. Soon, they started chatting and laughing loudly like long time buddies.
Every night as she laid on her bed, thoughts of him, filled her mind. She was always tempted to give him a call. Sometimes, she did, and other times, she waved it off; she didn’t want to come across as cheap and desperate. As the African woman that she was, she knew it was better to let the man do the chasing, and not the other way round. Weeks passed, turning to months, and they didn’t get past their “best friends” phase. Apparently, David was comfortable with the way things were. If only he knew that his sweet buddy, wanted more and wished to have him as much more than a friend. If only he knew that she had a huge crush on him.
Faced with the challenge of living with the strong desire and watching the object of her crush every day, going about life, unaware of what she was feeling, she wasn’t so happy. She enjoyed being around him and still laughed at his jokes, even when they weren’t funny, but it all wasn’t complete, something was missing.
Most of us have been in such a situation. Wanting someone even when we aren’t sure they want us too. And for some reason, it’s always difficult to lay the cards on the table, to open up to them and get their reaction, hoping that it’d be in our favour. There’s the fear of rejection. What if I opened up and they say no? If that happened, we’d wish we never opened up in the first place, leaving hidden emotions hidden.
We cannot always have the answers to every question. Things won’t always turn out in our favour. When you are crushing on someone, chances are that they are crushing on you too. No matter how difficult opening up to them may be, the least you could do is to try. Whether they say “yes” or not, the most important thing is that, you’ve gotten it off your chest. You’d be surprised they could even say a big “YES.”
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