Men place their attention where their heart is. A guy who truly loves a girl would be deeply invested in her. He would want to know everything that concerns her. You see, talk is cheap. A guy could tell you whatever he wants you to hear just to have his way with you. Don't pay attention to all that sweet nonsense. You should pay more attention to his actions.
Some basic questions can tell you whether or not a guy truly loves you. Some of these questions are so simple you would think it's insane for your boyfriend not to have the answers, but you might be shocked to find that he can't answer them. When you ask him those questions, if he doesn't have the answers, you already know where you stand, and there's no point in staying with him.
1. What Is My Birthday?
The first question you should ask your boyfriend to know whether he loves you or not is what your birthday is. It might sound funny, but you will be surprised to learn that your boyfriend might not know your birthday. You know why? Because he doesn't think it's relevant.
That's really funny because your birthday is part of your identity. It's part of who you are. It's the day you were born, the day you came into this world. I'm sure you've told him a couple of times, so if he doesn't know it, it's probably because he doesn't think it's important. He's so busy thinking about other things he considers more important.
What could be more important than your birthday? Nothing, if you ask me. There are so many other guys out there in the world who would do anything, to the point that remembering or knowing your birthday would be the least they could do for you.
Aside from the fact that you might have told him a couple of times, when a guy is genuinely in love with a girl, one of the first things he wants to know is her birthday. He wants to know because he understands how significant the day is to her. He's getting ready to sweep her off her feet on that day.
If he doesn't know your birthday and hasn't made any effort to learn it until now, when you're asking him, it's a clear indication that he doesn't consider it important. You really need to probe that, because you should be with someone who doesn’t take you seriously.
2. What Is My Surname?
When a guy doesn't love you, he doesn't care much about you. He doesn't want to know anything about you, even the smallest details. None of it matters. You may think that he knows your last name, but you are assuming.
Why don't you check it for yourself? Ask him what your surname is. You can even ask your friends to ask their boyfriends about their surnames. You will be shocked to find that either your boyfriend or their boyfriend would not be able to answer that question correctly.
They don't care. They don't want to know about your family. They just want to be with you, take whatever they want from you, and then bounce off. You will be shocked to learn that if your boyfriend had his way, he wouldn't even know your name.
How could he relate to you without knowing your last name? He could address you by a pet name, but at some point, he would have to call you by your name. That's the only reason he knows your name.
3. What Is My Biggest Dream?
Your dream is something you're deeply passionate about. It's something anyone close to you knows because you must have shared it with them at some point in your life. If your boyfriend has no idea what your biggest dream is, it's because he doesn't consider you a major or vital part of his life.
Your dream is what keeps you excited. You go to bed at night thinking about it. You wake up in the morning with so much hope and excitement because of that dream, and he's not aware of it. He's not supposed to just be a well-wisher but to be involved in making it happen. He's supposed to motivate you and take steps with you toward achieving your biggest dream.
Ask him that question and get his response. If he doesn't answer it correctly, you have no business whatsoever being with him. You need to be with someone who will not only support your dream but also motivate you day and night to go for it. When you win, he wins, too. Your success is his success. If he has no idea what your dream is, it probably means he doesn't even care about your future.
4. What Makes Me Happy?
One of your boyfriend's core duties is to make you happy. He is supposed to be on his toes, looking for ways to make you happy, because when you're happy, he is happy. When you thrive, he thrives. He cares so much about you and always wants to see a big smile on your face. Ask your boyfriend what makes you happy. If he has no idea what it is, that's a huge red flag.
How is he supposed to make you happy if he has no idea what makes you happy? This is a question you should take seriously. Any guy who has even the slightest interest in you should know this.
Guys are nonchalant when they aren't in love. If he has no idea what makes you happy, it means that when you're unhappy, you will be all by yourself. That's not cool at all.
5. What Is My Favorite Color?
That's a simple question because women are very vocal about their favorite color. Anyone around you would know by now what your favorite color is. You would be surprised to find out that your boyfriend might not know what it is. That's because he doesn't care enough about you to pay attention. Apart from the fact that you might have mentioned it to him, a guy who truly loves you would have noticed it himself. He would have seen you using that color often, wearing it, and having it around you.
He would even ask you, out of curiosity, whether that was your favorite color, and you would confirm it. When he doesn't really like you, he's not that into you. He ignores what you use or do. He would rather be with someone else.
When he's with someone he truly loves and cares about, something as simple as a favorite color wouldn't be a problem. He would know it within the first few days. Ask your boyfriend about your favorite color and see what he says.
Everything a guy does when he truly loves a girl is done to make her happy. He would be so interested in learning about things you had not even told him. He would go the extra mile just to learn these things because he wants to use them to make you happy.
Take your birthday, for instance. You don't even need to tell a guy who really loves you your birthday. He will go FBI on you to find out what that day is, and when he does, he will set up something special to treat you right.
If the tables were turned, ask yourself whether you would know all these answers about your boyfriend. If you genuinely love him, you would. So why doesn't he know these things? It's because he doesn't really care.