When Dayo came along, Ada’s world was fully illuminated. He was the true definition of a gentleman. After many failed relationships due to incompatibility, His presence alone, changed her perception of love being an illusion. Indeed, true love existed, after all, she thought. The first few months of honey for new couples elapsed and he began to show his true real character, but she was too blinded to notice because of the imaginary world she had built. And then one day, she woke, in a strange bed, surrounded by her family. She could neither move nor talk. She was in the hospital and had just come out of a one-month coma, due to abuse in her relationship by her Prince charming.
Here are 5 Signs of Abuse in Your Relationship
• Lack of freedom
Both partners in a romantic affair are meant to enjoy maximum freedom; a relationship isn’t a prison. People give in their best in love when they have freewill. They express themselves, in their own unique ways. When that’s lacking, it’s a clue that all isn’t well.
• Extreme jealousy
A little jealousy doesn’t hurt; it’s a love language of affection. But when it’s extreme, it’s something else far from the four-letter word. When you have proven to your partner over time that you are faithful to them, it’s only fair that they give you a break. A very jealous lover can get abusive to prove a point.
• Insults
This is a very obvious sign you are in an abusive relationship. You may not get it right always, but that’s not an excuse for your partner to get verbally abusive either in public or private. When they begin to call you derogatory names, it means they have no respect for you and are just a step away from inflicting harm on you.
• Fear
Fear doesn't exist in the dictionary of happy couples. Your lover is supposed to be your best friend, one whom you are anything but afraid of. When you are afraid, it means you are in an unhappy relationship. If you are afraid of him/her, then there must be a reason for that, a feeling that they could hurt you. If you experience this with your partner, you need to run for your life.
• Threats of violence
Now, this is on a level of its own. While disagreements are inevitable, it’s not enough reason for either party to threaten violence on the other. They say talk is cheap, but not in this case. If they could say it, they could do it. Don’t give them the opportunity to take it out; it might be disastrous.
Like Ada, most people, especially women see these signs of abuse in their relationship, but they still stay, hoping that their partners will change. Don’t put your life in the hands of anyone. You owe it to yourself to protect yourself first because only the living gets the chance to love.
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