The hustle in Lagos, Africa’s most populated city is real. And this hustle isn’t restricted to money and material things, it extends to other human needs. As a woman, if you don’t want to remain single or stuck with “hit and run” men who are always on the lookout for a woman to satisfy their momentary desires, you have to get your acts together. A woman looking for love in Lagos is not a tea party. The lily-livered will throw in the towel, having the delusion that in this city, love is an illusion.
All hope isn’t lost, a woman can find love in Lagos, in the midst of the craziness, if she played her cards well. Here are some tips to guide you on the cupid journey.
• Dress decently
The rate at which most Lagos girls dress can make a man walk into a moving vehicle without looking. And sadly, that doesn’t pass a good message across, but that of a girl who is ready to give up the ‘cookie’ to any men that can afford it. You shouldn’t be in that category. Dress decently. But doesn’t mean you should become a nun overnight. Keep it simple, stylish, and fashionable.
• Get a job
A thousand and one girls in Eko live off men, making use of their ‘asset’ in exchange for comfort. When you meet a decent man, he’d want to know if you are responsible enough to earn a living for yourself or you are looking for a maga to rip off. And trust me, no responsible man wants to be a woman’s maga. If you want him to be your prince in shining armor, you need to let him know that you aren’t a liability. How can you find love in Lagos if you share your cookie to every man with a fat bank account?
• Be original
Lagos girls have PhDs in forminology. They reek of a disgusting fakeness, that scares serious men away, all in a bid to fit in and impress. The only thing true about them is their existence. When a man sees a girl who is leading a fake life, he’ll know, especially when she doesn’t live up to it. There’s nothing wrong with being modest, you won’t be crucified for that. You need to love yourself first before a man can truly love you.
• Comport yourself
The average Lagos babe loves to “turn up” and “show herself” to the highest level. She loves to be the life of the party, not because it comes naturally, but because she wants everyone to notice her. When you go out, don’t jump around like a fighting cock, talk at the top of your voice and pour large quantities of alcohol down your throat like it’s water. You need to keep it classy. He might gulp the alcohol with you and smoke all the cigarettes, but he won’t take you seriously in the love department.
• Don’t appear so loose
A man will relate with you based on the signals you give him either consciously or unconsciously. You need to be careful not to give him the impression that you are one of those babes who are after a man’s pocket and can stoop to the lowest level just for the money. Keep your utterances decent and intelligent; mesmerize him with intelligent conversations, and not with your body. When he hints at jumping the gun to get to your ‘treasury,’ politely decline and keep the train moving. If he isn’t interested, he could take a walk, leaving your dignity intact. You can be one of the few virtuous women left in the world.
Are there no men in Lagos? One might ask. Men are not in scarcity, as a matter of fact, there are many here. But the thing is, the majority of these men aren’t looking for love, they are looking for women to warm their already warm beds. However, a woman can find love in Lagos if she behaves like potential wife material.
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