So,
Toke Makinwa and her ex-boyfriend of 12 years, Maje Ayida finally called it
quits. While Toke has spoken on their break-up, until now, Maje has been quiet
about it. He finally opens up in an interview with ThisDay.
Read
excerpts of the interview after the cut:
If
you were to go on an island for an exotic weekend, what are the 5 things you
will take along?
Wifi,
workout gear, a good book, a good woman and a good escape clause
You
seem quiet but your publicized relationship via social media and blogs just hit
the rocks after 12 years. How did you handle a relationship for that long and
what happened?
I
don’t think relationships are things you handle or manage. Relationships are
part of your life. They are part of who you are and probably the most complex
thing in the world. Continue...
Earlier
this year, you did the first part of traditional introduction to your ex’s
family. What exactly went wrong after that?
Wrong?
I don’t think I got that memo, and if that memo got circulated, I can’t discuss
it here. Everything about our lives here is a journey; a journey that I’m just
glad to be on.
You
guys have been on and off for 12 years. Do you see yourself going back to her
considering all your tweets about your ex not focusing on your relationship
rather attending events and making appearances as she claims in blogs?
Maje:
I write a lot of stuff on social media. Some about me, some about life, maybe
something I saw, maybe someone else’s experience, maybe my mood at the time.
The idea is that someone somewhere may be feeling that same thing. Sort of like
the comfort you get on knowing that you’re not alone when you hear a song that
speaks what you feel. One thing I will say just as a general life tip, ‘don’t
make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.’ (not my words).
Who
is your kind of woman or are you one of those who love to date women in the
limelight?
Maje:
I’m like the United Nations. I have love for everyone. I feel anyone that says
they would only date a particular type of person is limiting themselves from
the beauty that is the human soul. It can take a lifetime to truly know
someone; we are continually evolving. Two people together grow together and
transform one another, just as experiences in life transform the individual. In
other words, no, I’m not after women in the limelight.
What
is your biggest regret?
Maje:
My biggest regret is not having the courage to start my company sooner, while
my mother was alive. Maybe it was God’s plan for me to start when the time was
right, He knows best, but everyday I wish she could see by progress and be
proud. It hurts to my core that she left me when I was still searching for my
purpose.
From
his tone, it’s obvious he still has a soft spot for Toke, so I wouldn’t be
surprised if they got back together. Or what do you think?